There’s a smile on my face as I type. It’s actually more of a grin. With a hint of an eye roll and an almost imperceptible shake of my head.
Do you want to know what my all-time favorite question/concern about my unschooled-with-no-current-plans-for-college children is? (And no, it’s not the one about socialization. It’s not the one about math either.) It’s this:
But what if one of your girls wants to be a DOCTOR?
This question might be mildly annoying if I didn’t find it so amusing. It’s just so classic. So predictable. So… I don’t know… funny.
And makes me wonder. What percentage of children grow up to be doctors anyway? I feel like it can’t be that high of a number.
I keep asking my girls why they don’t want to be doctors. “From what all the people are saying” I tell them, “I feel like you should want to be doctors. Like maybe all your hopes and dreams of being doctors have been completely wrecked by this little unschooling experiment of ours.”
They roll their eyes and remind me (even though I already know) that they have other ideas about their future (and their now). They have never, not ever, expressed a desire to be a doctor.
No one in either of our families is a doctor. And, ironically, no one who is asking me this question (But what if one of your girls wants to be a doctor?) is a doctor either.
I’m writing an e-book about unschooling. A couple weeks ago I asked (on Facebook) for some questions people might want answered in such a book.
One friend said, “What do unschooled students need to learn to be prepared for college depending on their career goals? For example, an unschooled student may want to be a doctor and then devote his/her life to assisting the poor, foreign and domestic. They’ll need to meet certain educational requirements to meet that calling.”
What if one of your girls wants to be a doctor?? How is this going to work out for them??
Well, I think I already said that none of them have set their hearts on doctor-hood.
And as for the other part of that (assisting the poor), all three of our girls have already devoted their lives to caring for the poor, foreign and domestic. Honestly, they do it every day here at our apartment complex where most of our friends are refugees from East Africa. Just yesterday, they got out of bed and went straight down to a neighbor’s apartment and watched her 7yo, 1yo, and 2-month-old while the mom took the other 2 kids to an appointment.
And they’re also working their tails off to earn enough money to go back to visit our friends in Cambodia. So there’s that.
And then there’s their mother, who only lasted two quarters as a nursing major before she switched to elementary education because SQUEAMISH. And yet, somehow, I’ve got injured and bleeding kiddos knocking on my door every other day for me to wipe their blood, administer antibiotic ointment, and stick on band-aids.
Here’s the bottom line. If, at any point, one of my girls does a 360 and decides she wants to be a doctor, I think we can find a way to make it happen. She can go back to school (although I do wonder what invaluable doctor information my doctor friends learned in grades K-12). Or she can stay unschooled until college (no, I’m not going to discourage a child who reeeeeeeeeally wants to be a doctor from going to college) and spend all her “free time” learning about doctor stuff, watching documentaries, and treating minor wounds of her friends here at Abbey Lane and around the world.
Bottom line? I appreciate the concern, but I think it’s all going to work out in the end.
p.s. Stay tuned for the e-book! I can’t wait to read what I’m gonna write!