focused, purposeful, pfffffft

I’ve been tossing an idea around. Starting in 2011, I’m thinking I might try to be a little more purposeful and focused in my blogging. This isn’t the first time I’ve “threatened” to do this, but I sure haven’t followed through.

If you’re a psychologist (or took a psych class in college), please don’t try to diagnose/analyze my problem. For whatever reason, I’ve got this rebellious streak in me that doesn’t want to do things how they’re “supposed” to be done. When it comes to planning ahead and being organized and all that jazz, I fight it like Rocky Balboa.

I struggle with knowing the difference between trying to be someone I’m not and trying to be someone I should be.

Anyway. I didn’t mean to go into all that. I basically wanted to ask you a question:

If I were to streamline this blog, make it more focused and structured, tame the wild-long posts and make everything more purposeful, what would you want that to look like?

Or put another way, what’s one thing you like to read on this blog and wouldn’t mind seeing more of?

And please don’t tell me what you DON’T like today. I’ll give you that chance on a day when my skin feels thicker. I’m going to a book club tonight where the ladies read Is That All He Thinks About? and they’re going to be sharing how they “really” felt about it. I can’t imagine they’d be cruel, but I’m bracing myself just in case.

Have a great weekend!

53 thoughts on “focused, purposeful, pfffffft

  1. Kelli

    Personally I like when you just ramble and blog. I read your blog because we can’t sit over coffee or talk endlessly on the phone. I know there are other readers you are trying to reach too and you have to think about ALL the different types. BUT I wouldn’t expect our conversation over coffee to be structured and focused so I don’t expect the blog to be either. 🙂 LOVE YOU FRIEND.

  2. Nancy

    I say pfffft to any negative comments! It’s your blog. It should reflect who you are….not who you SHOULD be. (That word haunts me….shoulda, coulda, woulda!!) I don’t know you personally so can’t say if your blog is a true reflection of you or not, but I can say I like it. I love “random” so the less focused, the better I like it! Just stay true to yourself and don’t compare to anyone else. Comparison is a joy stealer! (My daily battle!)

  3. Robin O'Bryant

    Ya know what? I say don’t change a thing. I’ve gotten my fair share of “hate mail” over petty things here lately, on my blog and regarding my newspaper columns and I’ve learned you can’t please everyone. (Also I’ve learned that some people maybe don’t take their meds before reading the paper or sitting down to write lengthy, petty and hateful emails…)

    I find it TOTALLY refreshing to hear other believer’s thoughts on LIFE, and I think that’s what a personal blog should look like… our lives. I think it should reflect the things that are most important to us at THAT moment. The moment we sit down to write. I think that if that is struggling with a particular sin, giving glory to God, worrying about your children or RAVING about your children…it’s all good.

    Because it is YOUR life and as a believer it’s encouraging to see other believers are struggling OR overcoming. And I would think as an unbeliever it would be eye-opening to be able to really see what a Christian’s life looks like on a day to day basis.

    I love it and say don’t change a thing, Sister.

  4. Elizabeth

    I don’t think it’s a bad idea, but totally not a necessary change! You write what you’re about, and I love it. It’s never purpose-less. I think having some posts that are purposefully about something that is important to you is a great idea, but if any change you make changes your voice, I don’t like it.

  5. Krysten

    I say you write about what you want when you want. I love reading your blog. I feel like I can relate to a lot of what you write. I also find that I am ofte challenged by what you write.

  6. Marla Taviano

    WOW, girls! (and Gabe) I go away for a few hours and come back to more love than I know what to do with. And I wasn’t even fishing for it–honest! (some days perhaps, but not today) Bless your sweet little heads!

  7. Angela

    I love all the real stories you share about your regular life.. It’s encouraging to know that you struggle and grow and falter and get back up – just like I do. And I love the pictures you share of your girls – they’re adorable!

  8. Rhonda

    I LOVE your blog. It encourages, inspires, makes me smile, and lifts my day. Keep up the good work. I like how you have variety and are so open sharing your personal struggles. Helps to know there are others out there who feel just like I do sometimes. You’re a real blessing in my life.

  9. Megan@SortaCrunchy

    (the reason you rebellious against organization and order is because you are an ENFP LIKE MEEEEEEE!!!! And see, I’m no psychologist and in the one psych class I ever took in college, I spent all of my time flirting with Kyle, so none of it sank in. So I can diagnose you! MWAH!)

    Marla, I just love the way things are. I love seeing your life on Word Sabbaths, I love the passionate way you write about things. I love how FUNNY you are. I love how REAL you are. I don’t know who told you that you need to be more focused, but please just know that the vast majority of us here hang out because we love YOU and everything that entails.


    1. Marla Taviano

      Teeheehee!! Thank you, darling. Nobody told me I had to be more focused. I’m just working on something I don’t feel qualified to do. But I may just tweak it so it fits ME better. Love you much!

  10. Natalie

    Love this place, Marla- it’s one of four blogs, I try to visit everyday! I love how you bring together your walk with the Lord and everyday life so naturally. That’s something I struggle with on my blog, actually. I write almost exclusively about my walk with God and not much about my everyday life and sometimes it seem like such a deep, heavy place when in reality, I can been a funny, light person. So, all that to say, I think you are doing a great job sharing here and I would not change a thing. In fact, I might try to figure out how to do more of what you do here over at my place 🙂

  11. Gabe Taviano

    The best part of being personal and sharing life via your blog is that you don’t have to worry about competing with other blogs. The ones that are just sharing data (how to, tips and tricks, etc.) often lose interest from readers. First and foremost, your blog should reflect Christ, and I think you’re doing that in a much better way than most personal blogs I’ve followed. I guess people might think I’m biased, but oh WELL!

  12. Cheryl Pickett

    Agree with everyone else so far. I like that there are different things going on. It’s one of the first things I read most mornings. It comes across very natural, a casual conversation between you and us, not unlike what would probably happen in person I’m guessing.

    Based on what you said, it sounds like picking a particular slant would be uncomfortable or less fun for you so that certainly doesn’t sound like an improvement, especially for you.

    Sometimes you need to follow “the rules” but I don’t think this is one of those times at all. If you had no readers and were trying to figure out why, I might suggest the change you are considering, but that’s not the case. You’ve got lots of readers who are already your “peeps” so maybe a tweak here and there, but I don’t think a big adjustment is in order at all.

    Hope that helps.

  13. The Awesomely Named Nina

    Gosh, I wish I had something original to write, but everyone else has spoken my thoughts exactly. I just discovered your blog during the Radical Read-Along, and it’s quickly become one of my “must-reads.” Keep up the great work–just keep doing what you’re doing!

    1. Marla Taviano

      Thanks, Jen. I’m going to waste some space here, because WordPress told me I was posting comments too quickly again and needed to slow down. It’s almost like it KNOWS me! 🙂

  14. Jen Hanson

    I LIKE your blog how it is with all its wide-long posts. It’s always a fun surprise to see what you’ll be writing about each day. Yours is one of the only blogs I make a point to read every day, mostly because its something different each time (and maybe a little because you’re my cousin). What I mean is, sometimes I’m not in the “mood” for a particular blog’s streamlined content, so I’ll just skip it. But with yours – it’s always fresh and different, yet always entertaining and Christ-focused. Most of all it’s real and I love that.

    That is totally not helpful in regards to your question, but that’s what I think. 😉

  15. Teresa Henry

    I agree with everyone…I think that you are very purposeful and focused. You share your servant heart with us…you share how the mission field is right in front of us and far away….you share how God provides…you share your struggles and stretching…and that is real life. We need real life!

  16. valerie (in TX)

    I have to agree with everyone else. I also have only been visiting here since a little before the read along, and I love just reading about how you do life. I like the posts about last-minute, hand made Halloween costumes and things like that. But I must say my favorites are when you talk about the ways you are seeking to be the hands and feet of Christ, and what that looks like in your life, and how you challenge me to get off my duff and do my own hand-being. 🙂

  17. Kathleen-NM

    Love the blog, not sure I would change anything. Book read along is the best. Book recommends I have appreciated and followed up on. Your questions and challenges are inspiring. Just continue to be you, that is what makes this blog one of my favorites. You help move all of us beyond what is comfortable, and have fun all at the same time. This is what I love most!

  18. Amy

    I personally like that you fight the purposeful, streamline…it’s you, Marla. You are swirly. Don’t change a thing. xoxo

  19. Holly

    Don’t change it, friend. Reading your blog is just like having a conversation with you over a warm drink. I tend to like the long, wild posts! 🙂

  20. Amber

    I have only been reading since the Radical read along and I have to say I really like it! My favorite parts are the “how” posts of how you share Jesus in your day to day life, be it in your quiet time, with your kids, neighbors, Cambodia, etc. It seems like you already do that most of the time, so keep on it!

  21. Bethany Peters

    Hmmmm…I think your blog is already pretty focused and purposeful. You share how God is working in you and challenging you and you share the messy details of what that looks like in daily life and it is inspiring, challenging, encouraging, and eye-opening to us blog readers! That’s what I like about your blog–their isn’t one specific theme and so we never know what to expect and it keeps us coming back!

    My favorite blog posts are when you share how God is stretching you and when He uses you to open our eyes to the world around us and what God is doing and how we might play a part. I feel like I truly experience church when I read your blog.

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