I was reading my Bible and writing in my journal this morning when an idea popped into my head out of nowhere.

Scrabble magnets. That spell “TONIGHT.”

Here’s the deal. I was praying about a talk I was two hours away from giving at a local MOPS group on s-e-x. And every time I do this particular talk (and I’ve lost count, but 30? 40? who knows?), I give “homework.” They have to (well, it’s optional) write down one thing they’re going to do tonight, tomorrow, or within the week to improve intimacy with their husbands.

And I thought, “Wouldn’t it be cool if they had a little code thing going on with hubby? Like he wakes up in the morning, starts to open up the fridge for some milk, and sees T-O-N-I-G-H-T (that his wife discreetly put there the night before or earlier that a.m.) and instantly turns giddy just thinking about what’s going to happen 12 hours from now?”

So, I made six sets of magnets and decided to sell them for $1 (for the whole set). I thought if I set the price too high, no one would want them, and the whole point is to get women EXCITED ABOUT THEIR MARRIAGE BED.

Well. They went like HOTCAKES, and everyone was sad I didn’t have more.

And the s-e-x talk? Was every speaker’s dream. The gals were sweet and kind and laughed in all the right places. And laughed hard. And talked to me afterward about how God used my words to speak to their hearts. And I loved them. Thank you, Heritage MOPS. You rock.

People ask me if I have that talk recorded so they can listen to it. And the answer is no. It’s hard to explain, but it’s a very, very personal talk (that I just happen to be giving to 20-250 of my “closest” friends”). It’s for girls only, and besides, I just really don’t want it “out there” for anyone to listen to. I would love to come share with your group, but there will never be a CD or MP3.

I do have something for you though. If you want to join my new MOPS friends in working toward a more intimate relationship with your hubby, I have 3 more sets of T-O-N-I-G-H-T. I jacked up the price though–$3 + $2 shipping = $5. (all proceeds to Cambodia Fund) First 3 gals to e-mail me get the goods.

And because I’m dangerously low on the letter N and the letter H but have plenty of Y and E and S, I also have 6 sets of “Y-E-S” for sale for $1 + $2 shipping = $3. E-mail me. And YES is just a shorter way of saying TONIGHT. And NO, you should not use the N-O from your TONIGHT for the nights it’s not going to happen.


If you can think of a different word that means the same thing (and won’t make me blush), let me know.

And while we’re on the topic, I’ve told some of you and hinted at it on Facebook and Twitter (and maybe talked about it here a smidge?), but I’m working on a book similar to Is That All He Thinks About? but for G-U-Y-S. I’ve had lots of people (lots of them men) ask me if I was ever going to write a husband’s version of the book, and my thought was always, “Uh, guys don’t really read books, do they?”

But maybe they do. At any rate, I’m going to give it a whirl. Because 1.) I think it could be really, really cool (and helpful!). and 2.) I’ve got a mission trip to go on.

Questions for you:

1. If you’re married, does your husband ever read books?

2. Would he read a book about THAT?

p.s. Please keep praying for Joanne. They took her off the meds that were keeping her in a coma, and once they’re out of her system, the prayer is that she’ll wake up. Lots of potential bad news, but ONE VERY GOOD GOD.

59 thoughts on “t-o-n-i-g-h-t

  1. Joy Fell

    My husband is not a reader so he would not read it but on the other hand we have tossed around the idea of a short cartoon style book for guys. πŸ™‚

  2. Kelli

    I just asked Chris. He stared at me blankly.

    Then said, “Didn’t I read that. Wasn’t it called The Five Love Languages?”

    And then he laughed and said would she call it: “She Never Thinks About That.”

    Ha. He is so funny and helpful.

    Love you πŸ™‚

  3. Jaclyn K

    Im still dreaming about ways to get you to Warren. I was thinking of selling stuff like you are for Cambodia but we are gonna call it the Marla fund and we will even throw in some of the best Mexican food this side of the border to sweeten the pot. Ask Ali El Jalepeno rocks!!!!

  4. MaDonna

    I LOVE this idea. I know I totally missed it because I’m reading it so late. But, GREAT idea.
    To answer your question:
    1. My husband reads
    2. YES, he would read about THAT. =)

  5. Kathleen-NM

    What a fun topic! We’ve been married 20 years, yes he reads I think he would read about THAT if we would do THAT more!

    Love the Scrabble tile idea! If you have any left, sign me up!!

    Glad your talk went well!

  6. Angela

    My husband would definitely read it, and I like the idea that other people have mentioned about reading it together. Can’t wait!!

  7. erin

    Such a great idea… I love it!!! And now I’m wishing you were coming to MY MOPS group to talk about S-E-X. Kathi is coming in April…maybe I’ll put a bug in their ear to see if you can come in the fall. I’d LOVE that.

  8. kendal

    oh, my man would definitely read a book about T-H-A-T. We have teenaged boys now. and they’re smart. don’t think i could do the magnets. but we have codes – when the kids were little it was called special resting. now, discreetly we say, are we on for tonight?

    1. Marla Taviano

      Sweet. And good point about the older kids. HOWEVER. I know you can’t tell a whole lot by a little avatar, but you look like a teenager yourself!! You sure you’re a mom to teen boys??!

      1. kendal

        ATTENTION EVERYONE! MARLA TAVIANO IS MY NEW BEST FRIEND. just saying. i’m two weeks shy of 41. the picture is only 1.5 years old. how much longer should i use it? i’m thinking forever.

        1. Marla Taviano

          Definitely forever. Is it just me or do you ever look at someone’s avatar and immediately think of someone you know in real life and then you always picture that avatar-person as that OTHER person?


          The person I think you are is this GORGEOUS girl I know. I think she’s 24. πŸ™‚

  9. Jen Griffin

    Not often does he read a real book. I read to him a lot though. He mainly reads on his laptop or phone.

    Hmm…probably not on question #2. But, I still love you.

    I think you should create….N-O-W…

    1. Marla Taviano

      Not only will he read it, he’ll call me on the phone and give me stories for my next one. πŸ™‚ I love my cousin Brian. And I know I tell you this a lot, but I am soooooooooo glad he married you. Because I love you just as much (if not more). πŸ˜‰

      1. Jessie at Blog Schmog

        Haha! Well, I guess I wasn’t worried. Might have something to do with being 8mo pregnant though. Not the funnest topic as of late. LOL!

        Actually I worded it backwards. I meant it would be fun to read together despite my current grumpiness about the topic. πŸ™‚

  10. Cheryl Pickett

    Yes, my husb reads and maybe/probably on the other question. I also think you may see more guys buying an e-book for a reader. You might also consider an audio version because maybe some would listen to an MP3 during drive time.

    My other suggestion would be to offer the books as a set so that the husb doesn’t feel it’s all on him to read and do something about “it”. They each read their own, at the same time, then maybe even exchange, hopefully talking about both all along.

    I also believe you could have success offering the set concept to churches to buy to use as a basis for either a workshop or couples Bible study.

    Go for it for sure!

  11. Elizabeth

    My hubby rarely reads, but he lets me read to him. He can tell you all about The 5 Love Languages, but only because I read it to him on a road trip years ago. So, he’ll get the message! Besides, I want to read it!

    e-mailing my Scrabble order now!

  12. Jen Hanson

    “And NO, you should not use the N-O from your TONIGHT for the nights it’s not going to happen.” Hahaha – you are such a hoot.

    I think my hubby actually read your book (ITAHTA), or at least a good majority of it – which is saying a lot because he is NOT a reader.

  13. Sharon Meekins

    Hi Marla,

    I’ve been praying for Joanne and her family! Speaking of Living Simply – I just recently purchased the book! πŸ™‚ I can’t wait to read it.

    Much love to you,

  14. Mandy

    Yes and Yes. He loves his new ebook reader and has been reading up a storm lately. He and I also read books aloud together, so if it’s a book I’m allowed to read, too, we would probably read it together.

    Love the magnet idea!

  15. Lori @ The Davidson Den

    1. My man rarely reads. (I take that back. He begins loTs of books. Finishes them? Not so much.)
    2. But he might read a book about THAT.

    You brave soul you…

  16. Jessica Peters

    no and no. Unless it has pictures of expensive tools on the front. Then it might be yes! I do know of other guys who read though. Maybe they’ll read it and inspire dh.

    Praying continually for Joanne. Thanks for the updates. I rely on you for them πŸ™‚

  17. Mary

    that’s great, marla! if only seth would read it…he is not a reader. (well, he can read, just chooses not to!) πŸ™‚

    if it was made into a movie though…

  18. Brooke

    nope, my hubby doesn’t read anything that’s not on his computer (blog, message board, etc) although that might not rule out an ebook?

    we’re opposite of most couples though, so a “is that all she thinks about” might be a worth while read for him!

  19. Addie

    Yes, my husband does read…. just alot slower than I do.. πŸ™‚

    And yes, anything on s-e-x, he would read – ha ha… not exactly how I meant that, but you get what Im saying, right?

  20. Bethany Peters

    Unfortunately my answers to both questions is “No.” But please don’t let that discourage you!

    There are so many things to do with Scrabble letters! A few years ago I spelled out my New Year’s resolutions with my magnet Scrabble letters on my fridge as a constant reminder–that was an idea I got from Joanne’s blog!

    Speaking of Joanne–I am still praying for her and her family and reading Toben’s updates. I’m reading her book “Living Simply” for the third time in honor of her. It’s a book I like to read every year. This whole week I’ve been thinking of how much she has influenced my life–ideas she’s given me that I’ve implemented as a growing wife and mom and homemaker. What a blessing she has been to me and I’ve never even met her! I’m not ready to stop hearing from her!

    1. Marla Taviano

      No worries! I’m not discouraged! I’ll just put Stew IN the book so he’ll have to read it! πŸ˜‰

      I’ve been thinking about Joanne a lot tonight. I found a pic of me and her on her blog that I forgot about (I didn’t take one on my camera), so that was a sweet gift. I’m going to re-read Living Simply again soon too. I would LOVE to introduce the two of you in person someday!

      I love you, Bethy!

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