Comments on: carrrrroleeeeeena! http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:21:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Kelly http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31560 Kelly Sat, 31 Oct 2009 03:35:38 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31560 Wow. Wow. I'm glad I can't jump through the computer. Marla you, or maybe Gabe?, wrote something awhile back related to this, I can't remember. I just remember respecting Gabe's opinion. Maybe Marla you wrote and he commented? I have no pity for anyone, really. It's so cliche, but beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. I mean, obviously our society skews that. However, I've been the "bigger girl" for the majority of my life...I still get hit on, I still get leered at. Of course my esteem gets weakened when the guy I find attractive doesn't feel the same way. But honestly, if I had been a cute, skinny girl, I would have been a major jerk growing up. It's late and I've lost my purpose. I guess I just wanted one of the "ugly" girls to speak out. Fat and happy. And who the heck cares at the end of the day? Jesus loves me, this I know. :) Wow. Wow. I’m glad I can’t jump through the computer. Marla you, or maybe Gabe?, wrote something awhile back related to this, I can’t remember. I just remember respecting Gabe’s opinion. Maybe Marla you wrote and he commented?

I have no pity for anyone, really. It’s so cliche, but beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. I mean, obviously our society skews that. However, I’ve been the “bigger girl” for the majority of my life…I still get hit on, I still get leered at. Of course my esteem gets weakened when the guy I find attractive doesn’t feel the same way. But honestly, if I had been a cute, skinny girl, I would have been a major jerk growing up.

It’s late and I’ve lost my purpose. I guess I just wanted one of the “ugly” girls to speak out. Fat and happy. And who the heck cares at the end of the day? Jesus loves me, this I know. :)

]]> By: Sally http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31533 Sally Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:58:32 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31533 I am not sure it matters, what I mean is that who is good looking or not is a “smoke screen for our selfishness”. We are all super selfish. Good looking or not - insecure or confidante. Our selfishness works it ways out in many ways. When we brush up against selfishness, sometimes we are surprised. But should we be? Maybe it is for our good? We are here to be servants so that means sometimes we will be treated like one. I am not sure it matters, what I mean is that who is good looking or not is a “smoke screen for our selfishness”. We are all super selfish. Good looking or not – insecure or confidante. Our selfishness works it ways out in many ways. When we brush up against selfishness, sometimes we are surprised. But should we be? Maybe it is for our good? We are here to be servants so that means sometimes we will be treated like one.

]]> By: Angela http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31527 Angela Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:35:27 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31527 As someone who recently got married, at the age of 34, please believe that it is WORTH THE WAIT! I'm not one of those women who got married at 19 telling you that. I have been in a wheelchair since I was 17, and I despaired of ever finding a godly man who would see me for a real woman. But, I waited and prayed, and my Prince Charming found me! He is so good and kind and tells me every day how beautiful and desirable I am to him. Keep waiting and praying! As someone who recently got married, at the age of 34, please believe that it is WORTH THE WAIT! I’m not one of those women who got married at 19 telling you that. I have been in a wheelchair since I was 17, and I despaired of ever finding a godly man who would see me for a real woman. But, I waited and prayed, and my Prince Charming found me! He is so good and kind and tells me every day how beautiful and desirable I am to him. Keep waiting and praying!

]]> By: jess http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31518 jess Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:17:16 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31518 just a real quick thought---jay, when i read your comment, what stood out was "more outgoing" . I'm not saying girls aren't superficial--there are some; BUT, I'm thinking "more outgoing" might have played a bigger part than your new look. I think Jack Black is a-dor-able because he's...so...outgoing. :) I think we can't generalize everything...but....that was my reaction so.... just a real quick thought—jay, when i read your comment, what stood out was “more outgoing” . I’m not saying girls aren’t superficial–there are some; BUT, I’m thinking “more outgoing” might have played a bigger part than your new look.
I think Jack Black is a-dor-able because he’s…so…outgoing. :)
I think we can’t generalize everything…but….that was my reaction so….

]]> By: SM http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31513 SM Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:03:35 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31513 interesting post! interesting post!

]]> By: Marla Taviano http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31510 Marla Taviano Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:04:50 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31510 Thanks for chiming in, Jay. You're right--girls aren't blind. And that would stink to be a guy who's not sure he's "good enough" for a certain girl. I remember chatting with a guy friend in college about "who's in whose league." I was shocked to hear which girls he considered to be in his league and which ones he thought were out of it. We definitely saw things differently. I can rattle off about 40 (or 60) couples I know where the girl is very lovely to look at and the guy looks like Jack Black on a good day. I might be able to think of one (or two) couples where the homely girl snagged Hugh Jackman. Either good-looking girls outnumber the guys by a mile, or girls(in general) aren't as concerned with looks. Thanks for chiming in, Jay. You’re right–girls aren’t blind. And that would stink to be a guy who’s not sure he’s “good enough” for a certain girl.

I remember chatting with a guy friend in college about “who’s in whose league.” I was shocked to hear which girls he considered to be in his league and which ones he thought were out of it. We definitely saw things differently.

I can rattle off about 40 (or 60) couples I know where the girl is very lovely to look at and the guy looks like Jack Black on a good day. I might be able to think of one (or two) couples where the homely girl snagged Hugh Jackman.

Either good-looking girls outnumber the guys by a mile, or girls(in general) aren’t as concerned with looks.

]]> By: Cousin Kelly http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31509 Cousin Kelly Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:11:07 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31509 Well I'm a girl, so I can't speak (or write) for dudes. :) It's true, some girls are superficial and refuse to date less-than-gorgeous men. But I hardly know any girls like that. There are exceptions to every rule, but if we are talking our basic make-up, women are *generally* stimulated by touch and words, and men are stimulated by sight. For me, attraction is 98.9% about personality. Mmmmm, ugly, nerdy boys. Be still my heart. :) Well I’m a girl, so I can’t speak (or write) for dudes. :) It’s true, some girls are superficial and refuse to date less-than-gorgeous men. But I hardly know any girls like that. There are exceptions to every rule, but if we are talking our basic make-up, women are *generally* stimulated by touch and words, and men are stimulated by sight.

For me, attraction is 98.9% about personality. Mmmmm, ugly, nerdy boys. Be still my heart. :)

]]> By: Jay http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31508 Jay Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:36:15 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31508 Ok, time for a dude to step into the fire here. With all due respect, it has been my experience that women are just as superficial. In all honesty, I've experienced this firsthand. When I was in high school, I was a bean-pole and kind of shy. 6 feet tall and I weighed around 160 lbs. Fast forward to when I was 20-21. I had worked out and now weighed around 195 lbs, was more outgoing and suddenly when I went out with friends, I found women easily moving towards me with the same kind of look Carrroleena was giving guitar dude. Now that it's 20 years later and I'm overweight, I suspect that if I were suddenly single, I wouldn't have women flocking to my side. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying anybody here is incorrect. But let's be real here. You take a guy that looks like Jack Black and another that looks like Hugh Jackman, put them together in the same room...who are women going to be drawn to first? And why? I used to be friends with guys that were TERRIFIED to ask a woman out or even approach a woman because they were certain they weren't good looking enough or because they didn't drive the right kind of car. Like I said, I don't disagree, but I just wanted to point out that such feelings exist over on this side as well and that us men see that same kind of behavior from women. Ok, time for a dude to step into the fire here. With all due respect, it has been my experience that women are just as superficial.

In all honesty, I’ve experienced this firsthand. When I was in high school, I was a bean-pole and kind of shy. 6 feet tall and I weighed around 160 lbs. Fast forward to when I was 20-21. I had worked out and now weighed around 195 lbs, was more outgoing and suddenly when I went out with friends, I found women easily moving towards me with the same kind of look Carrroleena was giving guitar dude. Now that it’s 20 years later and I’m overweight, I suspect that if I were suddenly single, I wouldn’t have women flocking to my side.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying anybody here is incorrect. But let’s be real here. You take a guy that looks like Jack Black and another that looks like Hugh Jackman, put them together in the same room…who are women going to be drawn to first? And why?

I used to be friends with guys that were TERRIFIED to ask a woman out or even approach a woman because they were certain they weren’t good looking enough or because they didn’t drive the right kind of car.

Like I said, I don’t disagree, but I just wanted to point out that such feelings exist over on this side as well and that us men see that same kind of behavior from women.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31507 Elizabeth Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:33:48 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31507 I can see both sides of this. I used to be the one all the other girls hated for being all cute, but now I find myself so annoyed with the pretty girls, especially the ones that intentionally take advantage of it. It helps to be reminded that men are made to notice the outside first, but let's be smart about that. Don't complain about being noticed when you're dressed like a hoochie mama, but don't complain not being noticed when you're out in your flannel pajamas. I can see both sides of this. I used to be the one all the other girls hated for being all cute, but now I find myself so annoyed with the pretty girls, especially the ones that intentionally take advantage of it. It helps to be reminded that men are made to notice the outside first, but let’s be smart about that. Don’t complain about being noticed when you’re dressed like a hoochie mama, but don’t complain not being noticed when you’re out in your flannel pajamas.

]]> By: Cousin Kelly http://www.marlataviano.com/life/carrrrroleeeeeena/comment-page-1/#comment-31505 Cousin Kelly Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:38:32 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5063#comment-31505 Oh goodness, there are a whole lot of women left out of this story, Morgan. This little snippet wasn't intended to encompass all of womankind or every male/female interaction issue out there. This is just a very small portion of something I wrote quite a while back. There was a much bigger point to it (in its entirety), but Marla uses this snippet to illustrate one particular point. By itself it *does* seem like the ranting of an ugly, insecure chick who hates pretty girls. Heeeee. :) I'm not the hottest woman alive, but I'm really happy with my looks, and I do get hit on very regularly, so I know how women feel when they're ogled and whistled at. It's annoying. And insecure, jealous girls are just as annoying. The story wasn't intended to be "woe are we who are ugly." It just relates to men being visual, and the difficulty of navigating that. That was the point. And in Carolina's defense, she was shy and giggled nervously the whole time, and looked pretty uncomfortable. Her outfit was small, but sadly, here in South Florida, it would probably be considered modest by the masses! My apologies to the hotties who are offended by my story!!! ;) Oh goodness, there are a whole lot of women left out of this story, Morgan. This little snippet wasn’t intended to encompass all of womankind or every male/female interaction issue out there. This is just a very small portion of something I wrote quite a while back. There was a much bigger point to it (in its entirety), but Marla uses this snippet to illustrate one particular point. By itself it *does* seem like the ranting of an ugly, insecure chick who hates pretty girls. Heeeee. :)

I’m not the hottest woman alive, but I’m really happy with my looks, and I do get hit on very regularly, so I know how women feel when they’re ogled and whistled at. It’s annoying. And insecure, jealous girls are just as annoying. The story wasn’t intended to be “woe are we who are ugly.” It just relates to men being visual, and the difficulty of navigating that. That was the point. And in Carolina’s defense, she was shy and giggled nervously the whole time, and looked pretty uncomfortable. Her outfit was small, but sadly, here in South Florida, it would probably be considered modest by the masses!

My apologies to the hotties who are offended by my story!!! ;)

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