Welcome to YOU Week!
There’s really no Game Plan. I just want to find out a little more about each of you–and give away some free stuff.
Since I have NaNoWriMo on the brain (which I keep inadvertently calling NaNiYoRiMo, because I know a Japanese song with that phrase in it) I thought I’d talk about LoLa today. Some of you might know LoLa by her full name–Love Languages.
A year or so ago, I shared a story about my middle daughter, Ava, who was in first grade at the time. I had been writing notes and putting them in her lunchbox for months when I found out she wasn’t even reading half of them. It crushed me, but then I realized that words of affirmation (at least written ones) might not be her love language. Love language = something others do/say that makes you feel especially loved.
Gabe and I began talking about the 5 LoLas and could only come up with 4.
1.) words of affirmation
2.) acts of service
3.) physical touch
4.) receiving gifts
I had to look up the 5th one.
5.) quality time (apparently, this isn’t mine, or I would have remembered it)
Gabe decided that his is acts of service. “Or maybe physical touch. One of those two.” I reminded him that physical touch does not mean you know. He knew that. He still likes it. But not in public. Gabe’s not a PDA guy.
Mine is acts of service too. Do something helpful for me, and I feel super-loved. Words are okay. Gifts are okay (if they’re something I really needed anyway and now I don’t have to buy it). Quality time = okay, I guess. But selfishly, I like quality time with myself. And touch? Yeah, not so much. I do like hugs, and I give them out frequently. And I do like it when Gabe or my girlies play with my hair–or when my sister Bethany scratches my back. Okay, maybe I like it more than I thought.
I told Ava the next morning that we were going to have a little talk about love languages, so Mommy could figure out how to love on her best.
Me: Which do you like best–when people do things for you…?
Me: OR when people say nice things to you…?
Me: OR when people get you gifts…?
Me: OR when people touch and cuddle you…?
Me: Or when people spend time with you…?
Gabe: (in Brian Regan mode) All favorites! Many much favorites!
So, tell me: what’s your Love Language? And give me an example.
I’m going to choose one random commenter to win a copy of Blushing Bride. And if you’ve been around for awhile and are all Blushinged out, I’ll send it to the person of your choice as a gift from YOU!
Have a great week, friends!