I’m a people person–except when I’m not. I like to be alone. With books, a paper and pen, my computer. I’d rather do than be. I often look at people as a waste of my precious time. I’m a Martha, not a Mary, and I used to be proud of that fact. But it’s not something to be proud of. And I want to make an effort to spend more time with people–getting to know them, inviting them over, going to visit them–and not just from the safety of my computer. We’ve moved 9 or 10 times, so I always have an excuse not to get to know people. I think we’re staying put for awhile. It’s time to cast aside the selfishness and dive in.

I joined a Bible study at church. Last week I had someone over and went to someone’s house. Friday night, someone (whom I’ve never met) came to spend the night with us. 🙂 This Friday night, I’m going to a hockey game with my husband and a couple we know just a little bit, while someone else (I just met) is watching my girls. I’ve got speaking engagements on the calendar where I will meet new people and try to share some “wisdom” with them.

It is easy to love others when you don’t have to be around them. 🙂 I’m going to stop being a hermit crab and start opening up my arms and heart to people–face to face.

Speaking of people, my 2 sisters are 2 of the dearest people in the world to me. If you have a moment or two, Bethany could use your prayers and Stephanie needs welcomed to Xanga.

Happy Monday! Wish me well on my departure from my comfort zone!

p.s. I need 20 more names for Is That All. Send ’em quick!

21 thoughts on “people

  1. faithchick

    I’m scared to death of meeting people, and entertaining them, etc. Yet, I love hosting parties and having company…and I do much better when I pretend I know everything about a person instead of going through the getting to know you process.

    i think it’s cool you’re meeting up/met up with kimberly & kristen. 🙂

    and now for your friendly BC message (just left it on kimberly’s site & am copying it to yours. enjoy it thoroughly: 😉
    I worked for Mellanie (the BC director) today, making phone calls to remind everyone of the 55% discount until THursday evening on a $350 order or more. I decided to save you (actually me b/c I had a list of 4,000 people) the phone call (although, now I can’t remember if i marked you off the list-so Mellanie might still call you-oops.) and just leave you a xanga message. It’s more fun that way, don’t you think? (and now I’m going to copy & paste this to Lisa. ;-))

  2. biblestorebrowser

    I’m very task-oriented myself. Last week I had that “buzz” you get from being around people (i.e., preschoolers, namely my own) too long. *Can people-oriented people even relate to that (negative) buzz??* DH said, “Why don’t you go out and get away for awhile?” What I really wanted was to be alone and cozy on the couch with my laptop and books so I could work on several of my ongoing projects without interruption.
    But I find I do need someone I can talk to about the “deep” things and I wish we had friends that were like what Eric Rees describes in S.H.A.P.E. I fear we’re too far away and too hermit-like to have friends like that, though. Maybe *we* need to get out of that comfort zone.

  3. YoGrandmaYo

         Hey, honey!  I need to apologize for not commenting on your blogs very often.  I really do enjoy reading them, though!  I tell everyone that I find out what’s going on in my kids’ lives by reading their blogs!  I laugh about it, but I think it’s really neat!:)  I really admire you for your honesty and your willingness to admit your shortcomings.  It makes you very approachable, and allows others to relate to you in a personal way!  I’m “humbly” proud of you, honey, and the Lord has taught me MUCH through you!:)

  4. angntug

    I love interacting with people and I love having people over….I love to host parties and prepare for them…..I LOVE my neighbors! They are to the point they just walk through my door if I don’t get to them……I’ve had them walk through the door as I’m walking out in a towel after a shower, lol! Ministry and joining a new church makes you interact with others…..especially when they know you and you don’t know them…..I have to get to know people! I wouldn’t mind if somebody was at our house every night, I really enjoy it!

  5. ch1pch0p

    I think I’ll be okay for Friday night. Yesterday just wasn’t quite what the day was supposed to be. I was supposed to be hanging out with my friend, not taking care of her kids all day, but sometimes that happens, and I was glad I was there, so her husband didn’t have to end up taking the day off work, you know. And since I don’t live 20 minutes away from here anymore and get to see her multiple times a week like I used to, it was nice to be able to be a part of their day.

    Anyway, I’ll plan on coming over straight from work on Friday, so I’ll get there a little after 5. Sound good?

  6. Abs7

    i too love to be alone with my books and computer. i naturally have an introvert personality, but i also think, for me, it is more of a laziness issue. one of my goals this year is to try to balance out “my time” by spend more time with old friends and making new friends. it always amazes me how wonderful and uplifting it is to be surrounded by good, caring individuals.   

  7. gsowell

    ^Good question…it’s one I think I failed pretty miserably on in my current location. I mean, I’ve befriended my neighbors, to the point that unexpectedly Christmas morning, my gruff, Harley-riding, cigarette-smoking, coarse-talking neighbor knocked on my door with 3 gift bags: new jammies for each of my children! How sweet! Yet, I feel we’ve done so little to share the gospel with him. And now we’re going to move! Maybe the next pastor who lives in this parsonage…

  8. YoYoYoder

    Oh how I love to be alone! I would be content being at home 6 days out of the week with my home to organize, sewing machine, TV, computer, books, journal, etc.

    At least my job forces me to be with people and I don’t have to look for too many opportunities to interact with them.

    Question for you–how do you reach out to neighbors? I don’t like to be bothered by unexpected visits from people I don’t know or like, so why would they want me to come by either?

  9. tonialynn59

    I also meant to say that I wish I lived close enough to babysit your kids.  We love kids!  I’m ready for grandchildren.  However my kids aren’t ready to give them to me yet!:)  And really that is a good thing.  So I will wait patiently on that but in the meantime we love kids.  We’re just a little far away to sit for an evening out!

  10. tonialynn59

    We are putting together gift baskets to draw names for for our luncheon.  Mary loves to shop and loves a bargain and you just can’t believe the cool ideas she has come up with for the baskets.  She was thinking of getting a copy of both of your books and had some cool ideas to put with them in a basket and make it the ooh la la basket.  She cracks me up!  One of the ladies in church paints and is going to paint 2 teacups and a teapot and Mary found this cool box with teabags inside and it will be one of the baskets.  She’s found lots of stuff that fit the chocolate theme.  I just can’t wait.  This is going to be such fun.

  11. tonialynn59

    I am a people person.  I love to be around people.  I love being in a group of people but I hate talking in front of a group.  Way out of my comfort zone.  Put me one on one and I love it.  In a group I’m quiet and listen (and I learn so much!haha)  I live with a husband who is more like you.  I somewhat understand. I am excited to get to meet you in April!  I wish you well as you depart from your comfort zone!  I’m happy for you that you are getting to go on a date with your husband.  Did you get the name I sent you for your book?  I just prayed for your sister!

  12. SuperGirlAmelia

    Ah, people. I was the same way until a few years ago when we moved 1200 miles away TOTALLY out of the comfort zone. I can assure that the more you do it, the easier and easier it gets. And as your world expands to include more and more interactions you’ll find your world to enrichen (is that a word?)like you never believed.

  13. ladymiss3739

    Sounds like you’re off to a very good start by putting your thoughts into actions!  Maybe what God teaches you in this will be something you can share in the future with the rest of us through another book.  🙂

    BTW, I messaged you a name for your Is That All book. 

  14. KmHunsberger

    You sure handled me well 🙂 Really, I had a wonderful time! Good luck on Friday night, I am sure everyone will have a wonderful time!!! I know going into last week I was a bit worried about all of the new people I would have to meet, but in the end…it was a wonderful experience.

    Do you like me less now that I crossed over from web to world 🙂 🙂 I love that I have actually met you now. I feel like we had a great friendship over xanga, but now it feels a little deeper. I am thankful for that! 🙂

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