I got an e-mail yesterday from a gal who reads my blog. I’m thinking I should address this topic on said blog in some fashion. But I’m thinking it hits awfully close to home.
I’d like to get your take on a mother’s guilt over not being “Perfect Mommy.” My logical side tells me to give myself a break and realize that I do my best, but my illogical side is always hammering away at me for what I should be doing (i.e. sitting on the floor playing games, reading books, teaching language skills, coloring, etc) or should not be doing (i.e. checking my email, reading blogs, posting on my own blog, dragging my boys shopping, etc.). It’s a constant struggle for me. I do make time for myself, but it never seems to be enough. Sometimes, no, OFTENtimes, I just want to be left ALONE! This, of course, adds to the guilt!
There’s truly nothing else I want to be doing with my life right now than growing in my relationship with God, being a wife to my husband, staying home with my two boys and taking care of my home. I’m more content now than I’ve ever been before.
What do you think?
What do I think? Well, my first thought was that I’m the WRONG person to be answering this kind of question. Just gonna pass, thanks. Then, I had a second thought. God has a sneaky way of making me encouraging me to write about things I struggle with–marriage, sex, babies. And I’ve purposely avoided doing a book about mothering people who can walk and talk, because I spend a lot of time wishing I was doing a better job of it.
I enjoy getting e-mails with simple questions that I can immediately reply to with a short and snappy answer. This one’s going to require some thought. And I think it’ll be good for me–even if it hurts. So, I’m going to think about it, pray about it, think about it, read about it, pray about it, and hopefully write a brilliant post about it before 2010.
And I’d love it if some of you would chime in as well. Do you struggle with Mommy Guilt? What are some of your questions/concerns/issues? What would you like me to address? What soothing words would you like to hear, so you don’t feel like you’re the only “bad” mommy out there?
And before I hand it over to all of you, something that reeeeeally puts my mothering issues in perspective is hearing about dear people who have lost little ones. My heart just hurts right now. Please pray for one or more of these friends today!
–I don’t know Joel and Jess personally, but I’ve been reading about their beautiful 11-month-old, Cora, for a couple weeks now. She was diagnosed with cancer less than a month ago and went home to be with Jesus yesterday. I cried and cried when I heard. Please pray for her Mommy and Daddy. My heart is breaking in two for them. (Jess has been blogging since Cora was born–perfectly healthy–last March. If you have time, read through some of her posts.)
–My sweet friend Amy is 31 weeks pregnant with baby Abigail. Abigail has triploidy (3 sets of each chromosome) and will not live. She stopped growing at 16 weeks but is still alive and Amy can feel her moving. Most babies with this condition don’t live past 30 weeks. Please pray for Amy (and Billy) as Abigail’s heart rate slows, then stops, and the time comes for Amy to deliver her. I love Amy dearly and wish I could take away her pain.
–My high school friend Rebecca gave birth to a baby girl at 22 weeks at the beginning of January. She lived for just a few minutes. Please pray for Rebecca and Michael (and 2-year-old Cooper) as they grieve for their baby girl. I know they’re hurting so badly.
If you know of any others who have lost little ones recently, please let me know so I can pray for them.
Looking forward to your thoughts on Mommy Guilt! Blessings on your Monday!