How did I end up with so many brilliant and eloquent friends?! You guys are great! I loved reading through your answers (even the 2,025-word ones).
I’m for sure going to address this topic in my next book (not the in-law one, although it might have a small place in there too). Soooo, I won’t write a chapter about school choices here. Let me try the nutshell version.
Nutshell version =
I believe with 100% of my heart that all three schooling options (public, private, home) are valid, valuable, and honoring to God. Just like I don’t think there is a perfect # of children to have, a perfect time to take a pacifier away, a perfect way to discipline, and on and on. So many of you said it so well–
1.) This decision is between your own family and God. Talk it over with Him and each other, and listen to what HE tells YOU to do. Then do it.
2.) Each child is an individual. Each family is unique. Each life situation is different and SUBJECT TO CHANGE. Don’t ever get too comfortable with what you’re doing. Always be re-evaluating and asking God if it’s time to do something different.
3.) There is NO reason to berate/belittle someone else’s choice. This is not the same thing as Christianity vs. Islam. Share your story, yes, but the goal isn’t to win converts to your way of schooling, thus saving them from condemnation and brimstone.
I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if each of my children reach the age of 18 having spent some time in all three types of schooling situations. They each appeal to me for different reasons. They are each lacking for different reasons. NOT ONE of them is the end-all, be-all, Scripture-adhering choice.
Our girls are in public school for now. I pray for their protection every day. They have already had chances to witness to friends. I have had the opportunity to get to know several teachers and kids. I’ve been able to encourage their kindergarten teacher who is a fellow believer. There are 90 countries represented in their school system. And a variety of economic levels. My girls are learning that the world is much, much bigger than just them. They are learning to come home and talk to Mommy and Daddy when a question of faith is raised at school. Gabe and I feel at peace about our decision.
We want to see–and bless–the world someday. As a family. Homeschooling would be cool–we could up and travel the globe anytime. I like the thought of spending a day exploring the library with my girls–instead of Livi being bored for a good part of six hours. I like the thought of going to Africa instead of just gym and recess. But…there are many other factors…and things I don’t want to give up (some selfish, some not)…
And I was just going to give you the nutshell version…
Bottom line? Pray for wisdom. Make your choice. Support others who have been called by God to make a different choice. Bashing someone else says to me–“I feel insecure about what I’m doing and need to bring you down.”
Love you girls! You are super-fab, all of you!