EDIT (2:31pm): Thanks for all the great answers while I was off at my Bible study Brunch! They LOVED, LOVED, LOVED the pie, B.E.! Nina is stalling her nap with, “I have to go potty, Mommy!” Nice. Be back soon to read through your comments more slowly!
Thanks for the encouragement about Ava. Some of you mentioned love languages and how words of affirmation (at least written ones) might not be her primary love language. Love language = something others do that makes you feel especially loved. (my paraphrase)
Long ago, a guy named Gary Chapman came up with 5 love languages:
1.) words of affirmation
2.) acts of service
3.) physical touch
4.) receiving gifts
And I asked Gabe yesterday, “What’s the 5th love language? I can’t think of it for the life of me.” He couldn’t either, so I looked it up.
5.) quality time (apparently, this isn’t mine, or I would have remembered it)
Gabe decided that his is acts of service. “Or maybe physical touch. One of those two.” I reminded him that physical touch does not mean you know. He knew that. He still likes it. But not in public. Gabe’s not a PDA guy.
Mine is acts of service too. Words are okay. Gifts are okay (if they’re something I really needed anyway and now I don’t have to buy it). Quality time = okay, I guess. But selfishly, I like quality time with myself. And touch? Yeah, not so much. I do like hugs, and I give them out frequently. And I do like back scratches and when my girlies (or sister) play with my hair. Okay, maybe I like it more than I thought.
Anyway, so I told Ava this morning (while I was putting her hair in uneven pigtails–where’s Gail when you need her??) that we were going to talk about love languages tonight.
Me: Which do you like best–when people do things for you…?
Me: OR when people say nice things to you…?
Me: OR when people get you gifts…?
Me: OR when people touch and cuddle you…?
Me: Or when people spend time with you…?
Gabe: (in Brian Regan mode) All favorites! Many much favorites!
Tonight we’ll talk more, and I’ll try to figure out which one is her real, most favorite. And Livi too. And Nina (that should be interesting).
So, back to my “acts of service.” I like it when people do things for me–things that I normally would have had to do, and now I don’t have to. Like the dishes. Or watching the girls while I go out with my hubby.
Oh, poo! I’d love to stay and elaborate, but I’m making B.E.’s Paradise Pumpkin Pie for a Bible study brunch here in an hour, and I’ve got to stay on task. I’ve only ever made pecan pie, and I’ve never covered the edges of a pie in foil before. (how do you do that exactly, B.E.??)
I got some cute thank-you notes from the first-graders I read to. I may post a couple tomorrow.
Gabe is interviewing Travis Cottrell (Beth Moore’s worship leader) on his podcast here in a bit. How fun! I wish I could be here. Gabe said he’s going to tell him that I listen to my Sandi Patty Christmas CD more than my Travis Cottrell Christmas CD. Whatever.
Have a Wild Wednesday! And if you’ve got it figured out, what’s your primary love language?