the bestest way to school

EDIT: Thanks, girls! I do love hearing your opinions–these are great! Remember to be kind–so far, so good.

And while I’m not going to share my own opinion yet (don’t hold your breath–not that exciting), I’ll share my background:

Preschool through first grade–Christian school. 2nd-4th grade–homeschooled. 5th grade–public school (very big school district). Moved. 6th-12th grade–new public school (small school district, lots of Christian teachers). College–Christian. Student teaching–public, international Christian (Japan). Teaching experience–1 year public, 1 year Christian, 1 year subbing public.

See how qualified I am to have an unbiased opinion?? 🙂

Okay, you’re all chomping at the bit. I’ll go ahead and ask the question.

If you have (or had) school-age kids, answer this:
We have chosen (chose) to _____________________ (send our kids to public school, send our kids to private school, homeschool our kids) because _________________..

If you don’t have kids yet or they’re pre-schoolers, answer this:
We plan to _____________________ (send our kids to public school, send our kids to private school, homeschool our kids) because _________________.

25 words might be impossible. Do your best. I’ll give you my thoughts at a later date. They’re a teensy bit muddy.

48 thoughts on “the bestest way to school

  1. MlleBaroque

    ^Oh Kim, you completely missed the jist of what I was saying.  If I said I wasn’t judgmental, why would you say I was?  Marla asked us to give what we thought was the best choice and I did, with my reasons.  I didn’t say anyone who chose another option was stupid, sinful, or otherwise; I merely said I wished they would first prayerfully consider homeschooling.

    I praise God you had an excellent public school experience, but I tend to think that’s not typically the norm.  Most kids at some point will be offered a cigarette, pot, etc.  And I still maintain that it takes a very strong person to say no.  My parents did an excellent job raising my siblings and I, but the school system still got to my little sister. (And yes, I truly believe it was going to public school that did it…she just wasn’t ready.) And they tried to pick the best school district they could find.  I think Christians can send their kids to public schools, but it has to be done carefully and with much prayer.  If that’s where you feel God is leading you, then I’m not one to say otherwise.  That’s between you and God.  See, Kim?  No judgment there!

    You and I do fundamentally disagree on the socialization issue.  I just think it’s easier for a person to overcome being undersocialized (which is not a sin) than it is to overcome drugs, unmarried sex, alcohol, etc. (which are sins).  Am I making any sense?  I know you can still struggle with those things regardless of where you go to school, I’m just all for sheltering (yes, and I mean sheltering) your children until they are ready to stand up for what they believe and can say no to their peers.  There’s no “magic age” for that either, some kids are ready before others.  My sister definitely wasn’t ready at age 14.  And no, I can guarantee you that a child that has been to 4-H and coops can and will sit through a class.  Coop classes are just a smaller version of a school classroom and 4-H is just brutal.  Trust me, I know. It’s the “separatist” homeschoolers that are severely lacking in those qualities, and I would never advocate that type of homeschooling.  Again, I believe we can be in the world without going to a public or even private school.  There’s plenty of world right outside our front door for our children to interact with that doesn’t necessarily involve sending them away for eight hours every day. (This is just my personal preference talking, but I don’t like the idea of seeing my kids less during the day than their teachers do.  It seems to me that the people with the monopoly on their time will end up having greater influence over them and what they believe.  Again, that’s just my thought.)

    Oh, and if you homeschool correctly, those lessons do stick.  I know many individuals that are living proof of that.  I know a person can come away from public school just as strong (or stronger) in their faith as any one else, but I think it’s harder and less likely, and I don’t think that’s a good thing.  If you’re going to use Scripture to challenge me, I just want to say this: Christ didn’t say we had to let other people teach our children in order to be salt and light.  As long as we are fulfilling our duty as Christians in that manner, we’re not sinning by keeping our children at home.  Just so you don’t think I’m a bad Christian.

    Do I make more sense this time around?  I honestly wasn’t trying to judge or offend and I’m sorry I came across that way.

  2. ch1pch0p

    ^ “I don’t judge Christians that choose public or private schools” — sorry, but this whole comment is incredibly judgmental and exactly what Marla asked people not to do, i.e., say only one option is correct.

    “but we’ve seen too many kids from good families come out bad from public or private schools (his brother, my sister, etc.).” and you really don’t think this is because of sin nature, not because of the school. I would say the parents didn’t do the best job of training and teaching their children. It has nothing to do with the school system.

    “Plus, do children really need to experience alcohol, sex, and drugs to realize that they’re bad?  I’d rather my kids avoid them altogether.” Again, entirely judgemental. I went to a public school my entire life and didn’t come near one of these things the entire time I was there. Don’t stereotype, generalize, or judge to try to make an incorrect point.

    Socialization vs. DWI/teen pregnancy — I was incredibly well-socialized and never turned in a late paper in college. Oh, and so far I’m 26 and not pregnant nor do I have a criminal record of any kind. You’ve heard from many teachers and college profs here who say they have problems with home-schooled students who can’t even manage to sit still in class or wait their turn to speak. I think that’s a problem. What’s going to happen when they have a job in the “real world”? A teen pregnancy can be overcome as a teen becomes an adult and learns to mother her child. An adult who doesn’t know how to handle working for a boss and handing in assignments on time is not going to hold his job for very long. Obviously, socialization is still a problem even in the world of 4H and coops.

    “It takes a strong person to stand up to their peers (even as an adult it’s difficult)…why make a child do it before they’re ready?” Because Christ told us to be “salt and light,” to “be in the world but not of the world” — all in THIS world. NOWHERE does he say to wait until adulthood, to wait until you’re 22 with a college degree and ready to stay at home with your own children! None of the commands in the Bible were given with age restrictions. Sure, you can keep your children at home and teach the the Word of God from a book and with lessons, but until they experience it in day-to-day life, how do you know it’s going to stick?

  3. MlleBaroque

    I’m a little late on this, but we were moving, so I just got my computer up and online.

    I was homeschooled up until college and loved it!  It was a fantastic experience for me and I know I got an excellent education.  My mom was a decent teacher (no experience…she’s an accountant) but where she lacked, homeschool curriculum and co-ops stepped in (there’s a whole lot of help available).  My husband and I truly believe that homeschooling is the best option for the Christian family.  It’s not the only option, but we’ve seen too many kids from good families come out bad from public or private schools (his brother, my sister, etc.).  Plus, do children really need to experience alcohol, sex, and drugs to realize that they’re bad?  I’d rather my kids avoid them altogether.  Granted, some homeschooled kids get to college and realize that they’re somewhat socially inept, but isn’t being socially awkward better than a DWI or a teen pregnancy?  Socialization isn’t really an issue anymore either…there are church activities, 4-H, organized sports, etc.  I don’t judge Christians that choose public or private schools, I just wish they’d give homeschooling a chance before they say it’s not for them.  With the resources available today, any parent can homeschool their children.  And if you choose to transition them into the school system, make sure they are ready for the challenges they’ll face.  It takes a strong person to stand up to their peers (even as an adult it’s difficult)…why make a child do it before they’re ready?  We as Christians can be in the world without letting the world teach our children.

  4. luvmynoah

    I did want to comment more about the whole salt and light thing.  I’ve been thinking about it more.  I know that with our neighbors, places we go and anyone we meet that Noah is salt and light.  We’ve done so many things that he gets to take part in where he’s passing out Bibles and info on Jesus…He’s very bold and not afraid to be that light!  We are also there with him and it’s being done as a family. I just didn’t want anyone to think that because we homeschool he doesn’t have those opportunities to witness and share the gospel.  I have some great books and articles about the whole social aspect too.  The kids got social skills!  He’s a hoot!  Anyways, there are tons of ways to have social skills other than just by being in a classroom.  Church is a huge one for us…small groups…there are also homeschooling groups in most communities that have a great time together weekly!  It very well all depends on the family who is homeschooling and how they live life.

  5. M3mine

    Wonderful feedback and I’m thankful after reading it, to be past that part of my life.  So many, many factors in what makes this work, versus what makes each a problem.  Organization of the parent doing the teaching, use of computer classes, Christians in the public school teaching, “good schools” vs. “bad schools,”  having others who homeschool that you can associate with/ gain help from, “being in the world but not OF the world,  good church programs for your children to learn from, associating with non-Christian neighbors, etc. so your child doesn’t grow up in the “greenhouse.” 

    Having taught 1st and 2nd grade Sunday School for 15+ years, I can usually pick out those home schooled vs. those in public school by their behavior in the classroom.  For the most part, those home schooled tend to have problems working in groups and tend to have more behavior problems.  Many can’t SIT for instruction, or shout out answers, while those in public school have better classroom behavior.  I realize I’m talking 1st and 2nd graders but it is a factor that I’ve observed over the years. 

  6. cnyoder

    We plan to homeschool, if we feel that’s what God wants for our family when the time comes.  Otherwise we’ll send them to public school.  Because . . . I actually think I’d enjoy homeschooling my children.  Alternatively, we’ll send them to public school – too many reasons for a 25 word answer – in a nutshell, you can raise good Christian kids in a public school – I’m proof.

  7. shannahhogue

    I’m not yet a mom, so my opinion is based on watching my friends, and that is that any schooling decision has to be made on the basis of the the student’s needs, the educational context (which schools are available, etc) and the family’s overall goals (spiritual/financial/personal/etc). With those criteria and a lot of prayer, the “right” answer for each student will become clear.

    As a college professor, however, here’s my two cents. My students have a mix of backgrounds (homeschool, public, Christian) and one is not necessarily better or worse than the other. Parental involvement and leadership in the student’s life has much more to do with how well prepared he or she is for college and life than the actual school attended. For example, if homeschooling is done well, the students are able to function very well, but not all parents homeschool well and (sadly) for the wrong reasons.

    I have more to say, but I wanted to keep this semi-short!

  8. rocknnell

     1Co 10:31 Therefore whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God    ( God literally through this verse, spoke deep to my heart about Gabe and Tug’s education)  He literally took HIS WORD and told me that HIS desire was for my sons papers, their teaching, their learning all, all was to be centered around HIM alone.  I took it seriously…didn’t know how Rock would respond, my sister, my family.  And some of them were negative, ” the bubble effect” the ” not in our community, effect”.  But, I knew what God had laid on my heart from HIM alone….and I obeyed.  He provided, Rock supported and the rest, is evident in their lives today.  It was a call from God, and my perspective, “if it isn’t from GOD, to you, don’t send them” – that would be just as great a sin.

  9. jonnalynn

    We do not have kids yet. Our plans will depend on what each individual child is like. Obviously, the quality/safety of the public school our family is zoned for will be a huge factor. I attended public school & christian school, and my mom home-schooled my sister, so I’ve seen all sides. Studying to be a school psychologist, I have SO much more than 25 words to say on the subject so I will just leave it that. 🙂

  10. terriwright

    What a teacher is expected to do….

    After being interviewed by the school administration, the teaching
    > prospect said, ‘Let me see if I’ve got this right: You want me to go
    > into that room with all those kids, correct their disruptive
    > behavior, observe them for signs of abuse, monitor their dress
    > habits, censor their T-shirt messages, and instill in them a love for
    > learning.
    >
    > You want me to check their backpacks for weapons, wage war on drugs
    > and sexually- transmitted diseases, and raise their sense of
    > self-esteem and personal pride.
    > You want me to teach them patriotism, good citizenship,
    > sportsmanship, fair play, how to register to vote, balance a
    > checkbook, and apply for a job.
    >
    > You want me to check their heads for lice, recognize signs of
    > anti-social behavior, and make sure that they all pass the state exams.
    > You want me to provide them with an equal education regardless of
    > their handicaps and communicate regularly with their parents by
    > let ter, t el ephone, newsletter, and report card.
    >
    > You want me to do all this with a piece of chalk, a blackboard, a
    > bulletin board, a few books, a big smile, and a starting salary that
    > qualifies me for food stamps.
    >
    > You want me to do all this, and then you tell me…
    >
    > I CAN’T PRAY?

  11. terriwright

    It takes me 25 words to introduce my topic!!!!

    In the end….you DO have a melange of experience that should enable you to make your own decision. Just don’t do it without God. And – – -you are a great example of how the choice doesn’t have to be ‘forever’.

  12. gtaviano

    I’m clueless as to how about the Dad the decision is. My answer about it not being about the moms was more bent to the decision being focused on what’s best for each child. I enjoy walking Ava down to the bus stop most days. Livi’s too big for that now and only has to walk 3 houses down. Not sure how much enjoyable homeschooling would honestly be for me. I work from home and honestly it works better for me when they are in school. Not sure if I’d get more annoyed if they were here all day, but I am thankful that I can focus a bit while they are gone. Maybe I should move my office to the basement, but being close to Marla during the day up here is fun.

    It sounds to me that it’s a question of whether or not the parents should be involved in the education I guess, and I think that is very specific to families. I praise God for the time I get with my kids, but honestly think it would be MUCH harder to be a good father if they were schooling from home. Date nights always give me the one-on-one time I need, and I’m getting grey and losing hair fast enough already. Glad to hear it works out for your husband!

  13. luvmynoah

    Gabe is right on with it’s not all about the mom’s.  My hubby is a BIG part of homeschooling.  He’s our principle…God our Superintendant….LOL.  I also love learning with my kids.  It’s like getting a whole new education for me….over and over again.  If dad’s not behind homeschooling I can say that’s it’s going to be so hard for mom!  I’ve seen it in other families. Dad is also a HUGE support system when I need a break or some time to myself.  Pray…God will lead you in all things He has for you….school included.

    I may have to get a diploma when Noah does and then again with Titus…hmm…

  14. stephaniedawnbasham

    It definitely depends on your kids and on the area you live in. The school district we’re moving to is one of the best in the state, so that definitely encourages me to send my kids to public school. And at this point in my life, I would rather live on the streets and eat cardboard than be a teacher. So that kind of limits my options. 🙂

    I have great respect for people who homeschool their children well. However, being a youth pastor’s wife, I see numerous teens who have been homeschooled their whole lives- many of them can’t sit through a fifteen minute lesson without getting up to go to the bathroom or fidgeting around, some beg their parents to let them go to public school because they’re strong in their faith and they desperately want to be able to witness to nonbelievers (and their parents don’t let them), and others who eventually go to public school in their 10th or 11th grade year can’t handle the workload and stress of it. I believe that many parents homeschool for all the right reasons (God’s direction, desire to bring children up both spiritually and intellectually), but some do it for the wrong reasons (protectiveness, ignorance). Those are the ones I have a problem with.

    As for Christian schools, I really don’t know where I stand. My husband spent K-12 in a Christian school (a very good one) and yet still doesn’t really want to send his kids to one. He says it was hard for him to fight the pull towards viewing the bible as another textbook. And that many kids he knew hated going to church on Sunday because they felt like they were going to school (only relevant when school and church are one building). I’m unsure how I feel about that one.

  15. kkakwright

    to sort of echo what gabe said…..Christian school worked for me.  i loved it.  loved it.  not so much for my sister and brother.  heather never got passed the religion to the relationship. 
    much depends on the personality of the child.

  16. gsowell

    We have chosen to send our kids to public school because
    a.) it’s a really good school, so I think they’ll get a great education.
    b.) while I’ve thought a LOT about homeschooling, God hasn’t impressed upon me that I should do that. Selfishly, I’ve been working on some other avenues of ministry for me, and if I were to homeschool, I wouldn’t have time to pursue them at all.
    c.) I don’t know about any private schools around here, aside from Catholic ones. For my Baptist kids, I thought sending them to Catholic school would raise more questions for them spiritually than it would answer.
    d.) We work hard on their spiritual training at home all the time. I’ve been blessed by the conversations we’ve been able to have that were started because of something that happened at school. Sure, there have been things I’d rather they had not seen or heard, but overall, it’s worked for us to use public school to help teach them to be godly in an ungodly world.

    As others have noted, this is a very personal decision for each family. For another family, for other children, for a different time or place, it may not work. For us, for my twins, for right here and right now, we feel it’s right.

  17. jessyomama

    ^ To the actual last comment. That’s the thing that’s blowing me away, is that God leading us one year does not necessarily mean that it’s going to be the same every year.  God definitely clearly led us last year (kindergarten) and now He’s kind of tossing back all the other options into the mix now. I guess the key (for us) is just obeying God’s leading all the time, not thinking anything’s a one-time decision. Okay, that’s all, honestly.

  18. gtaviano

    Applaud the wife for opening a can of worms – seems like an interesting thread going on over here. She mentioned that she was going to take the leap and post the blog, but she has no clue I’m sharing my thoughts. She’ll post more on our decision (more than I will share).

    I am very thankful that my parents sent me to a private school, but there are many times I look at how that “environment” turned out for some other guys in my class. Private schools can often get VERY legalistic to a degree with how people behave in “their quarters”. Some churches give the same bad looks when they see lower class or people who might sin more than they do walk in the doors. Love is the answer to many situations, and I believe most Christian school administrations struggle with how to extend love in hard situations. Sounds like most churches as well?

    I really felt sorry for the bad eye some of my friends got in high school. Even it was with drinking, music or girls. If you can’t handle following Christ closely, I don’t think teaching or leading a Christian school is for you.

    Public school – not much of the expectations of course / a little more of a chance to “screw up” / more chances to reach the lost or learn what the real world needs. We learn about the real world in private schools, but don’t really get to see how much of a need for the Lord they have. Easier transition to actually jump in the trenches and do something about it maybe?

    Home school – possibly more progressive education / much less of a chance of relating to others or learning people skills / maybe missing a chance to practice obeying other authorities than parents / better food / easier for family to do missions or get away without the schedule of schools. I think some home school mothers can do very well, but it’s not about the mothers is it?

  19. jessyomama

    ^ i am there with you… the protective mothering instincts… yep, that’s me, too. my feelings have definitely changed (i.e. are constantly changing) on the topic since having kids!

  20. kgrubinski

     
    Disclaimer: This will not be 25 words…  Also, I did not read any other responses before writing this.  I will read them after. didn’t want to be tainted J.
    Blank # 1 – All of the above J
    When our oldest was in K, we were on deputation preparing to leave for the mission field, so we homeschooled, with the intention of putting the kids in an English “Christian” School in the Dominican Republic.  Without going into detail (word limits and all J), after 6 weeks, at the Dominican School, we brought our two daughters back home (1st & K4).  When we moved back to the US, we felt the Lord lead us to enroll them in the local public school (K & 2nd). They started there Jan. 2006.  We live in a GREAT school district and were very happy with it.  However, Feb. of ’07 (1st & 3rd), DD1 started asking if we could homeschool again… My answer was (in my mind), “NO WAY, I am 7 months away from FREEDOM (youngest would be in K in the fall) and I am looking forward to that!”  However, her persistence, and DD2 also asking to homeschool again (btw, they both loved their school…) I told them I would pray about it…
    And pray we did.  After my kicking and screaming, I was sure the Lord was once again leading us to homeschool.  So, we have been homeschooling once again since August (4th, 2nd & K).
    Blank # 2 See blog…  http://weblog.xanga.com/kgrubinski/604975025/im-alive-and-were-gonna-homeschool.html
    All I can say is, we have done all three (DS went to Christian school for K4).  We cover this area in prayer often and are constantly evaluating what He wants us to be doing.  I do not regret for one second our choices in each situation listed above, I believe the Lord has been guiding us through this (just like every other aspect of parenting) every step of the way and I believe the kids have benefited from each situation.  I am not dogmatic in saying, “We will homeschool through graduation” because God has moved in our hearts and only asks us to obey in whatever the next step is.  I will say, though, that homeschooling has benefited each of my children and us as a family and at this time I do not sense the Lord leading us to do differently regarding schooling.  Each of my children is able to learn in their unique way, they are challenged at their own pace and are doing very well academically.  We have the privilege to pray together throughout the day when we need to.  We are not strapped to uniform “Achievement Tests.”  My oldest daughter is learning American History without leaving out our Christian heritage (which is something I never learned!!) We discuss how wonderfully God has made our bodies in Health, and how to glorify Him with our bodies by eating healthy and exercising.  Oh, I could go on and on, but since I’ve already gone WAY over the limit I will stop.  Blessings to each of you as you seek what God would have you to do with your children!!

  21. faithchick

    i have one more thing to add–i ditto everyone that says it’s important to meet your kids before deciding.  I *always* thought public school-hands down.  And then I had kids.  I didn’t realize the protective instincts that would kick in–and how scary it is to think about sending them off to be under someone else’s influence for the better chunk of a day.  It’s overwhelming!!  While, I used to be 100% no-homeschooling, no-private school—i can see a shift in my thinking since having kiddos of my own.  Which, of course, makes the decision all the more difficult.  Oh, brother.

  22. bensmomshelly

    Hmm, interesting topic, and very apropos right now because we’ve been hashing and rehashing this at our house for a couple of years.  Ben starts kindergarten in the fall, and until very recently (think within the last month) we were sure that we were choosing a charter school.  However, I checked their test scores, and also after talking to some parents from the public elementary school to which he would be assigned, I *think* that we’ve decided to go the route of public, at least for kindergarten.  That said, we’re hoping to move before 1st grade into another, better public school.  Even if we’re not able to move, though, I’m thankful that God has given me some peace about the choice we’re making…………..which is the LAST choice I ever thought we’d make, given the district in which we live.  Things change.

    We do have a good (from what I hear, at least) Christian school in our town, but for us it’s not financially feasible.  We know several very successful homeschooling families, but I just feel that it’s not a good fit for our family.  You have to know yourself and your kids, and for us there are better options at this point.  Oh, and I went to public school and then Christian college, and hubby went to ACE/Christian schools and also Christian college.

  23. ekag

    We have chosen to home school our children, at least for the younger years, in order to train them and ground them in their faith before they are exposed to the temptations and evils of the world. Both my husband and I were raised in the public school system. We have decided that we want it to be our responsibility to educate them through the filter of our belief system until we feel they are strong enough to make a stand in a secular world. We actually do our state’s virtual academy (which I know many die hard home schoolers are against, so I apologize). I can elaborate on the virtual academy option if anyone wants me to- just comment on my xanga. We have 4 children, ages 1-almost 7.

  24. tonialynn59

    I too would pat any parent on the back that homeschools.  But for our family, they went to public school and if I had it to do all over again, they would still go to public school.

  25. filledeparis

    ^I absolutely think it is essential to meet your kids before deciding these things. We should be led by God in each situation, with each child. There is no one-size-fits-all plan. I tend to agree with Flying CAB’s thoughts. I went to public school, homeschooled my Sr. year, attended christian college, and taught in both public and Christian school. I will say that after teaching in a christian school that biblically, it is still the primary responsibility of the parents to model godly principles in the home, even if they send the kids to christian school.

  26. kkakwright

    we haven’t made a decision yet.  if we can afford private school we will probably do it.  however, we will not be able to afford private school unless we hit the lottery.  we don’t play the lottery.
    i give 100 pats on the back to women who homeschool.  i don’t have it in me.  i think it is probably one of the hardest ways to do it.  kudos to anyone who sticks by their conviction and actually does it.
    louisville has a traditional (as well as public) school system.  which is public, but a little better.  students have to maintain a b average to go there.  a certain code of conduct is expected.  they wear uniforms.  it is a total lottery system for who gets in and who doesn’t.  BUT, once you get into a traditional school you are in it for good, unless you get kicked out.  so, we will try for traditional (unless we start playing the lottery) and if we don’t get in, they will go public.

  27. ch1pch0p

    I’m not even going to pretend like I stayed within 25 words…

    I think we need to be very careful here not to word our comments in such a way as to state that we’re the only ones who have a handle on God’s position on schooling. It’s very easy to have comments come across as preachy or condescending by using biblical references. Remember that although the Bible has only one true interpretation, there are many right applications that can be appreciated. 

    God used many young children in amazing ways throughout the Old and New Testaments. (Samuel, Mary, David, the boy with the fish and loaves, Moses, Miriam) Who’s to say He can’t do it in today’s schools as well? Just because a child’s theology is not fully developed doesn’t mean s/he should be denied the chance to share his/her faith with others and to be used by God.

    Also, public schooling gives parents the chance to be involved with unbelievers — not at the expense of their children — but to lead and teach their children. I just read someone’s blog today who said, “I need more non-Christian friends!”

    I would also be very worried if we start to differentiate what parts of the Bible apply to what age group of believers. Where do you draw the line then? Jesus prays in John 17:15, “My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one.” I think that begins to describe a parent’s role – protect your children, through any type of schooling. And it applies to all age groups.

    I’m not at a point yet where I have to make this decision, and a lot of factors will go into it: the area, my ministry, my job, my husband’s thoughts, money. It’s obviously not an across-the-board decision for anyone.

  28. jennikim

    ^ that’s why cab was my best friend, she knows what she’s talking about.    (not saying others of you DONT know what you are talking about, she just worded “my” thoughts better than i think i could have worded them myself.)

    i cant wait to hear God’s direction in this area of our life, although i do know i have a few more years to make this decision, thankfully! 

  29. FlyingCAB

    PS – I wanted to clarify – when I said open to all I’m definitely including homeschooling.  I can’t say if I’d be good at it…but I’m not ruling it out as a potential best option…

  30. FlyingCAB

    We don’t have kids (yet?!), so I usually keep my mouth shut when people post “parenting polls” … but since you opened it up! 

    My current position (which changes with time) is caveated with the fact that it will depend largely on the child – their maturity level, how easily they are influenced, their learning style etc – as well as the public school and affordable private school options available.  Basically, I’m open to all because I think they each have wonderful merits! 

    But, if all the pieces fall into place as I’d want (haha, I know) It would be Christian school through middle school, switching to a good public high school, because I think it’s important to give them a chance to learn in a safe environment and be “trained up” first (see above) but also want them exposed to living “in the world”  (see further above!) before they head out to college and leave our home.  (this is how it was for me…and I think it worked well!)

  31. luvmynoah

    Well, I may be the lone homeschooling mom here…I hope not!!  I usually don’t respond to be honest because of how people come back at me.  We LOVE it!  I would say that if you are making conclusions on one family you’ve seen or heard of…or from the news search it out!  I have alot of Bible references as well that I could give you Marla if you are writing about it. 

    As for being in the world….I have a different take.  When Christ called out His disciples to go with Him they were not young kids…they were men.  He knew what all they would face…persecution, hatred, evil, lonliness…and on and on.  He wanted them to be trained up physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally to serve.  I know my young son is not ready in all those areas as a kid to face evil and the things the devil can throw at him alone.  Every thing contrary to God’s word plants seeds in their hearts and minds.  Some of them will definalty grow and become more to deal with.  I did go to public and Christian school as did my husband…we’ve seen all sides.  Homeschooling is what we know God’s led us too.  If  anyone has a question for me…I’d be glad to try and answer it!  The things I’d tell you are scripture based and not just an opinion.  We all have to be so careful in throwing our opinion and not having scripture to back it up.

    I hope this topic can stay nice and peaceful Marla…I know I’ve seen it go terribly wrong on many a blog. 

    FYI…I do go crazy some days…and I teach in my pj’s….I wouldn’t trade it for anything! I do teach math…but I knew 25 words were NOT possible for me…sorry. 🙂

  32. meganweist

    Hmm these are all really interesting….Campbell will be 2 and so we have begun the discussion of public vs private and have not come to a conclusion.
    I will not be homeschooling-see Jess for her reasonings I ditto all she said -I think kids need other points of view than just mine and I know I can not bring enough to the table, I need people who are trained in specific areas.
    I went to an inner city public high school and can you call CedarCliff a public elem?? I completely agree with the arguement that the kids need to be “in the world” I got to lead friends to Christ at school and witness to them, I think that is a really important part of growing in your faith. I also think I grew and was challenged by having to defend my faith and my stances on things in a public setting.
    I did not even bother counting my words

    I want to hear the teachers points of views

  33. jbnygaard

    We have chosen  to send our kids to public school because our public school is a dream school. We have an EXCELLENT rating from the state, and 3/4+ of the teachers in the Elementary, Middle School and High School are christians. They are surronded by a lot of christian’s, however, they get a taste of what the real world is. I agree with Kelly. We need to train our kids to know how to live in this currupt world that we live in. They need to be trained to defend their faith, and that entails (sp?) my extra effort to teach them about God at home.

    I have NOTHING wrong with homeschooling. I have a VERY good friend that homeschools and her kids are UNBELIEVABLE. With her example, I have seen the benefits of homeschooling, but because I KNOW I would go insane having my kids home ALL day long, and teaching them all by myself. It’s just not for me.

  34. kellycohan

    No kids yet, but I think public school. I think we’re supposed to be “in the world” – kids too. It’s up to me & my husband and our faith community to shape our kids spiritually so they can reach out to the real world. Plus public schools offer great academic & extracurricular opportunities. This with a huge assumption that the public schools are a) safe and b) challenging. If I lived 20 minutes south of where I live now, I wouldn’t even consider public schools.

    Nowhere near 25 words! Ha! Sorry.

  35. ergirl053

    Appreciate the thoughts as I have NO idea- trying to pretend that she’ll stay little and the day won’t come when a decision actually has to be made. Unrealistic, I know 🙂 It’s wishful thinking really!

  36. jessyomama

    okay, if i can post two 25 word comments… public school is good b/c it puts families in situations with nonbelievers & different family/national cultures. christian schools are good because it is another opportunity for kids to be exposed to godly men and women and biblical teaching. homeshool is good because it can build healthy, close relationships w/i families and schooling can be based on the needs/interests of the child (as far as learning style, focusing more time on subject that need more work, etc)

    that’s why we just can’t decide w/o God’s direct intervention. the pros almost even out the cons for us. AAAAAAAAH!

  37. jessyomama

    we chose christian school but we very uncertain and felt God’s direct leading there last summer. but now things are up in the air again for many reasons. public schools are good, but scary (putting impressionable kids in potential harmful philosophies and relationships – especially later on, jr. h, h.s.); private schools are good but scary (many kids come out of christian schools w/a lot of spiritual knowledge, like science knowledge, intellectual); homeschool is good but scary (trying to balance mom/teacher is very delicate and difficult). sorry i think i went over 25 words.

  38. bethelaine

    public school (as long as we can find a house in a good school district)

    because:
    1 – public schools often offer better course selection / more opportunities
    2 – spiritual growth can be fostered at home / church / youth group
    3 – private schools are expensive
    4 – i would never, ever consider homeschool. (but i don’t think less of those who do)

    FYI: i went to christian school.

  39. faithchick

    We plan to send our kids to public school OR send our kids to private school,  because even teacher-Mommy doesn’t have the discipline to school in the disctracting home environment and mommy isn’t nearly as passionate about geography and chemistry (not to mention that we have no Bunson Burners) as some of my teachers were.  Passion is important when teaching.  And if adult, impulse-controlled mommy gets bonkers & stir crazy at home all day–i can’t imagine my kiddos not doing the same. 

    that barely scratches the surface of my thoughts. It’s just a skeleton, really.

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