tale of a bratty wife (video finale)

If you’re just joining us, check out Parts 1 and 2 from the past two days.

Again, I’m not sharing sordid details, because they are SOR-DID. Suffice it to say that Saturday, July 4th was a Low, Low Point in my Journey Toward Godly Wifehood.

I can’t blame Gabe for a second. It was All Me. Even if he did get a new video camera that is supposed to be for our zoo trip, but he kept recording me at the most awkward and inopportune times. I went from mildly annoyed to pretty stinkin’ annoyed to unleashing the gates of rage and hoopla on him.

On Saturday afternoon, with just 2 of our 48 childless hours remaining, I lost it. Lost. It. I spewed a nasty word (the nastiest one I know), and I don’t do that much. Not ever really. I swept a huge pile of papers off my desk (my entire zoo book manuscript and all kinds of other stuff) and then kicked it all over the floor. I flung a pile of stuff from Gabe’s desk onto the floor for good measure. Then I stormed upstairs and slammed not one, but two, doors. And broke the molding off our bedroom door frame.

Hello, I’m Marla, and I write Christian books about marriage. I can even come speak to your church or group and tell you how you too can be the wife of a happy husband.

H-y-p-o-c-r-i-t-e much?

My beautiful husband forgave me. And we’ve put the past behind us. “That’s what you call unconditional love,” he told me. Yes. Yes it is. We were able to laugh at it over dinner when we picked up our kiddos from Mom and Dad. Dad just grinned and told me that it’s no secret where I get my temper, jerking his thumb at me dear Mama.

Well, I got a ton of lovely qualities from her too, so I won’t complain. Or point fingers of blame.

Here’s the very first video Gabe took of me. A good 20 hours before my Rage Fest. Enjoy! (It’ll be another three years before you see more video footage of me on this blog.)

Marla loves video from Gabe Taviano on Vimeo.

And at the exact time I was writing about The Bus Boys the other day, Dan the Man was writing a comment on my blog, entering to win Jess’s t-shirt. Whaddya know? We’ve e-mailed back and forth a couple times since then. I asked him if he was on Twitter. He mentioned that he saw that I was on Facebook but that he’s “not fond of people over the age of 25 on Facebook.”

Kids these days.

Hopefully we’re having a blast at a bunch of zoos right now! Miss you all!

24 thoughts on “tale of a bratty wife (video finale)

  1. Angela

    I can’t tell you how comforting it is to know that I’m not alone in the bratty wife department, although I’m sure my erruptions outnumber yours (and I’ve only been married 6 months!). Thanks so much for your honesty and openess – it is such an encouragement!

  2. Carissa@ExcitingTimes

    You’re just the cutest thing! I also prefer not to be captured on video (it IS like a trap, isn’t it?), and wonder why my husband won’t just let me be. Sigh. It is what it is.

    I hope you’re having a great zoo trip! ~ Carissa

  3. Meg @ Spicy Magnolia

    Thanks for sharing this, Marla! It made me not feel so alone; it made me thankful for my hubby who is forgiving like yours; and the video made me chuckle–I think it’s awesome you ended up putting it on the web! Hope you’re having a great trip. 🙂

  4. Stephanie your sister

    It’s a good thing only one of us kids inherited Mom’s bad temper.


    And I’m betting that for all four of us to struggle with anger, we must have gotten it from both of them and not just one of them. Memories of Dad losing at Phase 10, anyone? 😉

    Love you millions!

  5. Carrie

    Okay, I’m glad this happens to other people, too. I am usually very patient, at least to a point, but Hubby & I had a knock-down, drag-out fight last week for the first time in a while, and I thought, Man, we’ve been together 6 1/2 years, shouldn’t we be past things like this by now??? 🙂 So thanks for sharing! 🙂

  6. Mary

    Marla, I’m so disappointed…I can’t watch the video for some reason! But I can only imagine it rivals some of my “best” moments. At least you’re open and honest 🙂 I’ve always wanted to throw stuff on the floor and fling things off a desk (it’s always so easy in TV) but then I panic about wrinkling important things or breaking something 🙂 I think that’s the OCD in me. Oh well.

  7. Denise

    Oh Marla – its so good to see that even you can get upset. It’s part of being human and it’s good to admit our faults. I get upset easily! I am so missing you! I look forward to you getting back and working on this zoo thing!

  8. christina

    Marla – thank you for being human, just like the rest of us. It is encouraging to know that even wonderful authors and fabulous speakers have those moments!!

  9. Megan@SortaCrunchy

    Love, love, love this. You know why? I miss you, friend! I loved getting to see you on video for a few minutes and I am not at all irritated with Gabe for filming you just a bit. THANK YOU, GABE!

    (hee. still friends?)

    Um, thank you for confessing this. I’ve thrown a few fits in my day, and I am happy to know I am I am in good company.

    Hope the traveling is going splendidly!

  10. Missy

    1. I suppose I am too old for Facebook then, too. But, considering he thought you were 24 at one point, I think he should grant you at least one more Facebook year since you look younger. 😉

    2. You may have been bratty, but when it comes to the vimeo thing, I’m siding 100% with you. My brother used to do that to me all the time when I was 12. T-w-e-l-v-e. Hated it then, would still hate it now. Interrupting someone who is reading is like turning someone’s movie off in the middle. Only probably worse. 🙂

    3. Hope this part of the week is going better for you!?!

  11. Lisa

    Oh, man. If only you knew how accurately that video portrays me lately. I’d love to blame it on pregnancy hormones, but the truth is, I’ve done FAR worse when not pregnant! You’re so real, Marla, and that is one of MANY reasons I appreciate you so much!

    Oh yes, and I agree, your bed is pretty. I would totally have that bedding.

  12. Holly V.

    LOVE that Dan is corresponding with you! That is so worth any bit of brattiness! 🙂

    Thanks for sharing that things aren’t ALWAYS rosy. I appreciate your transparency. Love you, friend.

  13. jessisabrattywifetoo!

    I HAVE A VIDEO JUST LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!! (kinda)
    oh, it made me laugh. because i’m SO GLAD that i’m not the only wife that sometimes just doesn’t want to go along with the Ideas of The Persistent Husband. I just apologized to matt this morning for beign a putz all week. I blame vbs (it happens every year at this time), but i know that i’m the only one in charge of my outbursts. but, in your defense (not that i’m picking sides!) i was getting a little stressed out for you in the Marla Loves Video movie. (Gabe, you were stressing me out! eek!) okay, i’m staying uninvolved. lol.
    cool that dan visited your blog & that you’ve emailed. 🙂
    and your bed is pretty.


  14. Nixie

    nice video 😉 Loved your 3 part story – except the bit where you were a brat but I think I could definitely give you a run in the brattiest wife dept – not that I want to win an award for that or anything.

    Let’s pray for each other 😉

  15. Deborah

    I’m not being sarcastic, I’m not kidding. I thought I was the only person I knew who did that and felt ridiculous for it (even if I haven’t a husband at whom to throw the fit). I’m not happy you share my flaws, but I’m thankful to know that you (and I) don’t have to be defined by them through the blood of Jesus. Wow. Thanks, friend. Praying for youall. With love <3

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