Comments on: gender selection http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:21:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: gretchen http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33693 gretchen Mon, 22 Feb 2010 20:45:56 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33693 Not only the gender, but the personalities and typical/non-typicalness lead me to surrender and depend upon Him. I was raised to be SO independent. God sure trimmed those dead wood branches in me as I had children. Love them. Wouldn't trade them. But nothing has grown me more (sometimes painfully) than being the mother to a "non"typical boy and a "typical" girl. Great question, btw. Not only the gender, but the personalities and typical/non-typicalness lead me to surrender and depend upon Him. I was raised to be SO independent. God sure trimmed those dead wood branches in me as I had children. Love them. Wouldn’t trade them. But nothing has grown me more (sometimes painfully) than being the mother to a “non”typical boy and a “typical” girl. Great question, btw.

]]> By: Kimberly http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33673 Kimberly Sun, 21 Feb 2010 07:01:50 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33673 I'm pretty sure he doesn't have that planned for me, as much as I've begged, but I can tell you I'd be thrilled with either! My BILs family has all girls and their first is a girl, so they are pretty sure it just a family thing! I’m pretty sure he doesn’t have that planned for me, as much as I’ve begged, but I can tell you I’d be thrilled with either! My BILs family has all girls and their first is a girl, so they are pretty sure it just a family thing!

]]> By: missy @ it's almost naptime http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33638 missy @ it's almost naptime Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:18:12 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33638 I think God gave me the kiddos he gave me because it was his divine purpose for them to be born! Regardless of my feelings about it! I always wanted girls and didn't care if I got a boy or not. But my first was a boy and - oh. I love all babies, but I love baby boys more. There. I said it. Baby boys just make me melt in a way that girls don't. And the opposite is true for my husband. Yet, we're getting a baby girl from Ethiopia. Why? Again...God wants us to. And he da boss. I think God gave me the kiddos he gave me because it was his divine purpose for them to be born! Regardless of my feelings about it!

I always wanted girls and didn’t care if I got a boy or not. But my first was a boy and – oh. I love all babies, but I love baby boys more. There. I said it. Baby boys just make me melt in a way that girls don’t. And the opposite is true for my husband.

Yet, we’re getting a baby girl from Ethiopia. Why? Again…God wants us to. And he da boss.

]]> By: missy @ it's almost naptime http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33637 missy @ it's almost naptime Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:11:20 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33637 thank you sweet friend. thank you sweet friend.

]]> By: meghan @ spicy magnolia http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33634 meghan @ spicy magnolia Thu, 18 Feb 2010 02:51:13 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33634 I read that post of Missy's yesterday, and it was so good! I'd always pictured having a girl first and was very surprised (but not really) that Brennan was a boy when he was born (we didn't find out his gender during my pregnancy). It took me awhile to adjust to having a boy, when I'd envisioned a little girl for so long. But oh, I am sooo glad I have a little boy! And I'd take all boys they're so wonderful! :) One reason I'm sure God gave me a little boy was to give me no more excuses in how I related to my in-laws. What I sow, I will reap, and it crushes me to think that my future dil might respond to me in ways that I sometimes respond to my in laws. Crush me! I've genuinely prayed for my attitude to change and to love them better, for they are wonderful, and Brennan was an answer to that prayer to help me be a better dil. I read that post of Missy’s yesterday, and it was so good!

I’d always pictured having a girl first and was very surprised (but not really) that Brennan was a boy when he was born (we didn’t find out his gender during my pregnancy). It took me awhile to adjust to having a boy, when I’d envisioned a little girl for so long. But oh, I am sooo glad I have a little boy! And I’d take all boys they’re so wonderful! :)

One reason I’m sure God gave me a little boy was to give me no more excuses in how I related to my in-laws. What I sow, I will reap, and it crushes me to think that my future dil might respond to me in ways that I sometimes respond to my in laws. Crush me! I’ve genuinely prayed for my attitude to change and to love them better, for they are wonderful, and Brennan was an answer to that prayer to help me be a better dil.

]]> By: Valerie http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33633 Valerie Thu, 18 Feb 2010 00:07:38 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33633 Our only wish has been to have a healthy child and we will be absolutely smitten either way. Health is all that matters when push comes to shove and it honestly saddens me when people are upset or disappointed in whatever sex of child they get. Of course thank God not everyone has had the experience of dealing with infertility and losing precious little ones. In a way I'm becoming more thankful that we've had the battle we've had.... because we'll always remember our journey and how hard we fought for either our son or daughter...therefore will be so extremely appreciative for our miracle child. I can't wait to see/meet the child God has planned for us.. we are still seriously kicking around the idea of not finding out the gender before birth. However, the verdict is still out on that one.... Our only wish has been to have a healthy child and we will be absolutely smitten either way. Health is all that matters when push comes to shove and it honestly saddens me when people are upset or disappointed in whatever sex of child they get. Of course thank God not everyone has had the experience of dealing with infertility and losing precious little ones. In a way I’m becoming more thankful that we’ve had the battle we’ve had…. because we’ll always remember our journey and how hard we fought for either our son or daughter…therefore will be so extremely appreciative for our miracle child.

I can’t wait to see/meet the child God has planned for us.. we are still seriously kicking around the idea of not finding out the gender before birth. However, the verdict is still out on that one….

]]> By: ConnY http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33632 ConnY Wed, 17 Feb 2010 20:34:51 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33632 I also wanted to chime in on the "God wants you to be holy, not necessarily happy." ... our pastor says that a lot - as well as "God cares more about our character than our comfort." I also wanted to chime in on the “God wants you to be holy, not necessarily happy.” … our pastor says that a lot – as well as “God cares more about our character than our comfort.”

]]> By: ConnY http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33631 ConnY Wed, 17 Feb 2010 20:33:30 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33631 My oldest is a boy ... and I think he is there because it is important in my family to "carry on the Hutch---- name"...I was sure he was a girl though! I think I had a girl next because of my mom - she always would say, "YOU JUST WAIT until you have a girl like you ..." and sure enough, I have a sweet but independent girl - like me. When I had my 3rd - 9 years after my last baby (SURPRISE!!) - I wanted a BOY. Boys are easier & less hormonal & love their mommas & cost less for clothes - and I didn't want another ME! But I got a girl - and I'm glad I did! At 8 weeks, she is mellow & easy-going - just like MY HUSBAND! :) My oldest is a boy … and I think he is there because it is important in my family to “carry on the Hutch—- name”…I was sure he was a girl though!
I think I had a girl next because of my mom – she always would say, “YOU JUST WAIT until you have a girl like you …” and sure enough, I have a sweet but independent girl – like me.
When I had my 3rd – 9 years after my last baby (SURPRISE!!) – I wanted a BOY. Boys are easier & less hormonal & love their mommas & cost less for clothes – and I didn’t want another ME! But I got a girl – and I’m glad I did! At 8 weeks, she is mellow & easy-going – just like MY HUSBAND! :)

]]> By: Kelsie http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33630 Kelsie Wed, 17 Feb 2010 20:11:05 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33630 I have been blessed with two boys. To answer simply, it is as it should be. I praise God for them, and I know this is His perfect plan. Maybe someday we'll have a girl. Maybe not. I'm okay with whatever the Lord wills. For right now, I want to be the best Mommy to my energetic busy boys that I can. God is certainly growing me because of these two. I'm very thankful. :-) I have been blessed with two boys. To answer simply, it is as it should be. I praise God for them, and I know this is His perfect plan. Maybe someday we’ll have a girl. Maybe not. I’m okay with whatever the Lord wills. For right now, I want to be the best Mommy to my energetic busy boys that I can. God is certainly growing me because of these two. I’m very thankful. :-)

]]> By: Gail http://www.marlataviano.com/family/gender-selection/comment-page-2/#comment-33629 Gail Wed, 17 Feb 2010 20:01:47 +0000 http://www.marlataviano.com/?p=5801#comment-33629 I love my three girls like crazy, and I think we're well-suited to parent girls, but maybe that's because we've grown into parenting what God has given us. Nature vs. Nurture. Discuss amongst yourselves. I have thanked God often (OFTEN) in the recent days for giving me a husband who is so well suited to fathering girls. He deals with their drama with more patience and grace than I can ever muster. He is the perfect distract-er and redirect-er for them. I've learned a lot about girls from watching this incredible man. I love my three girls like crazy, and I think we’re well-suited to parent girls, but maybe that’s because we’ve grown into parenting what God has given us. Nature vs. Nurture. Discuss amongst yourselves.

I have thanked God often (OFTEN) in the recent days for giving me a husband who is so well suited to fathering girls. He deals with their drama with more patience and grace than I can ever muster. He is the perfect distract-er and redirect-er for them. I’ve learned a lot about girls from watching this incredible man.

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