a girl, her unborn baby, and our big God

I have a story to tell tonight. One that’s really, really cool, because it’s one that only God could piece together. There are a handful of players, and I’m fixin’ to add a bunch more: ALL OF YOU (a.k.a., ALL Y’ALL).

Last night (Wednesday) I received an e-mail from a woman I don’t know.

Hi Marla,

I am hoping you can help me. I just received an email from a young woman I know in Estonia who just found out she is pregnant. She is disillusioned by the thought that an abortion will “fix” this situation. I found your blog while searching for a pregnancy location in Estonia. Do you have any contact information for pregnancy centers in Estonia??

God bless,
Sara (not her real name)

Why did my blog come up when searching for “a pregnancy location in Estonia?” Because of this post where I talk about how my blog readers donated a handful of my Expecting books to Light in the City, a crisis pregnancy center in Estonia. (since then, you’ve donated over 600 books to centers around the world, and I love you for it!)

I immediately contacted my friend, Lisa, who knows Janice, who I believe runs Light in the City. Lisa shot me Janice’s contact information, and I forwarded it on to Sara, who passed it on to L, the girl seeking an abortion.

Sara wrote back:

This is PERFECT.  Praise God !!  Thank you. Please keep praying.  The girl that I know is going to see the OB doctor tomorrow;  OB doctors in Estonia are known to perform way more abortions than live births. I will email Janice right now. I will keep you updated if you like. Thank you for your prayers.

I was praying, Lisa was praying, I posted a request on Facebook and lots more people started praying. I couldn’t fall asleep last night for HOURS, so I just kept praying for L and her little one.

Sara e-mailed me this morning at 9:00:

I’m a little worried; I haven’t heard back from the young lady today.  I had asked her to meet me online today so we could talk.  She said she wanted to talk to me but I don’t see her online.  I just emailed her Janice’s cell number. Thanks so much.

And again three hours later:

Hi Marla! I called Janice this morning;  the girl contacted Janice as soon as I emailed her Janice’s number!!!  They are meeting in a half hour (1 pm) our time today.  PLEASE PRAY and get as many people to pray for this baby as possible! Thank you thank you for your witness to life and these precious tiny helpless babies (human beings)!!

More and more people started praying (God bless Facebook), and then I got a message from Janice:

Just finished meeting with L. She is a precious young lady. Keep praying for her. She has an appointment for Tues already set. Pray that God will guide her, she is not a believer. I prayed with her. She said that she has never met such a caring person before. I told her that I am here for her, no matter what. Let’s keep praying for her! Thanks for sending her to me! What a great partnership! Janice

Holy cow. Praise Jesus!!

I asked Janice what she meant by the appt on Tuesday: OB or abortion?

She said: Her appt today was with the OB to confirm pregnancy. Tues is the first abortion pill. I told her if she wanted, that I would even go there with her.

I e-mailed Sara and asked her if she minded if I blogged her and L’s story so that more people could be praying for L. I also asked her for more details on her connection with L if she didn’t mind sharing.

From Sara:

Thank you, Marla, for using the internet to do His will!!! Actually, L. is the au pair that we chose to come live with us for a year and help us with childcare. She was “supposed to” arrive in 2 weeks!!!  I myself am due to have our fourth child in the very beginning of September. L. wrote me an email yesterday morning to inform me that she found out she’s pregnant and wants to have an abortion, and asked if she could come anyway to be our au pair. She is very very misled. She would rather have the abortion than put the baby up for adoption.  I wish she could read all the posts that you say your friends wrote; especially about how many people would adopt the baby already!

In one of my many emails to her yesterday, I asked her to think about this:  how would she be able to come and help me care for 3 young children, and I said that she would be miserable once she saw our newborn baby. God bless you and your friends, Marla. I don’t mind at all about the idea that you suggested.  If you can get more people to pray, all the better.


Will you join me in rallying around this sweet girl in prayer? And would you be willing to leave a word of encouragement for her that Sara can forward along? I want so desperately for her to feel the loving arms of Jesus wrapped tightly around her in the coming days.

Thank you so much, friends!

23 thoughts on “a girl, her unborn baby, and our big God

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  2. Melissa I.

    I too want to encourage this beautiful young lady – L. Sweet L – the Lord will never leave you nor forsake you because you are His precious creation. He made you on purpose and for a purpose. I personally did have an abortion at a young age and now and the mother of 3 wonderful boys. I can only tell you from my experience that terminating a pregnancy might eliminate a responsibility, but it will never eliminate a memory. If you are at all like me, you will hurt for that decision for a long time. Adoption is a much braver option; to give your child life and an opportunity to have a family who is longing through tears and pain to have a child. I sincerely hope and pray that you will make the decision to give life to this child that God has formed, but in the event that you do not, please do not fear that God despises you…He never will. He will always love you. I hope that you will get to know Him because I believe He is anxiously waiting for you to reach out to Him.

  3. Stephanie

    I am praying for this girl as well. I know a wonderful couple that are great friends of ours. They had tried for 12 years to get pregnant and were unable to, through much heartache, tears and disappointments they decided to go through an adoption agency because they wanted to be parents so badly. About two years ago they received a call from the agency telling them to come to the hospital….an hour later they met their little girl Teagan. She has been with them since the day she was born. They are wonderful parents and Teagan’s mother was very young and did not feel she was fit to be a parent, but she chose life for her little girl and our friends are now parents “wonderful parents” and have been blessed with an opportunity to love and care for her. Adoption is a wonderful choice I’ve seen it first hand.

    Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. I look at my little girl everyday and cannot imagine life without her in it, she brings such joy and love to our lives.

    I am praying that L makes the right decision

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  5. Anonymous

    A note to L –

    I just wanted to share with you that I have been in your shoes. I was pregnant at age 20 and made the decision to have an abortion when the baby was 9.5 weeks. It was the most painful decision I have ever made, and even though my mother held my hand through everything, it was horrible. It haunts me… everyday.

    I am 27 now. I am happily married to the most loving, understanding man and we just welcomed our first beautiful child into the world this year. Being a mother is the most incredible thing I have ever done. Experiencing a healthy, joyful pregnancy and being blessed with a perfect delivery of my baby have been life-changing events for me. I have never been so happy!

    I know that your situation is not ideal. No one knows that better than me, as I was once in the same situation. But I urge you to consider an alternative to abortion. I wouldn’t wish the pain and sorrow that I have experienced on my worst enemy. It never goes away. Even looking at my precious baby now, I still think of the baby I gave up years ago. I am serious when I say that not a day has gone by that I haven’t thought of that child. Yes, I am just one person. I know that my story is not the same as every other woman who has gone through this, but I fear for you. I don’t want anyone else to go through what I went through.

    You are in my daily thoughts and prayers, L.

  6. Victoria Eustace

    God loves you and your baby. Whether you choose to get an abortion, or give your baby the gift of life, God still loves you. He loves you with a love that is everlasting, and I believe you will experience that love. Whatever you choose, you will never forget that choice. Getting an abortion will not make you forget. You will always remember your child. I pray that you will choose life!

    “O Lord, You have searched me and known me…

    For You formed my inward parts;
    You covered me in my mother’s womb.
    I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    Marvelous are Your works,
    And that my soul knows very well.
    My frame was not hidden from You,
    When I was made in secret,
    And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
    Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
    And in Your book they all were written,
    The days fashioned for me,
    When as yet there were none of them.
    How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
    How great is the sum of them!
    If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand;
    When I awake, I am still with You.” -selections from Psalm 139

    Jumal armastab sind ja su last. Kas soovite saada abort või anda oma lapsele kingitus elu, Jumal ikka armastab sind. Ta armastab sind armastus on igavene, ja usun, et kogete, et armastus. Mida iganes sa valid, sa kunagi ei unusta, et valik. Kuidas aborti ei tee teid unustada. Sul on alati meeles pidada teie lapsele. Ma palvetan, et sa valida elu!

    “Issand, olete otsinud mind ja tuntud mind …

    Sest sina valmistasid mu sees osad;
    Sa kaetud mind mu ema ihus.
    Ma tänan sind, et olen kardetavalt imeliselt loodud;
    Imelised on Sinu tööde
    Ja et mu hing teab väga hästi.
    Mu luud ei olnud varjul sinu eest,
    Kui ma salajas loodi,
    Ja osavalt sepistatud madalaima osa maa.
    Su silmad nägid minu aine, mida veel vormimata.
    Ja Teie raamat nad kõik olid kirjutatud
    Päeva läheme minu jaoks,
    Kui seni oli keegi neist.
    Kuidas kallis ka on teie mõtted mulle, Jumal!
    Kui suur on summa, mis neid!
    Kui ma peaks lugema, nad oleks hulgal kui liiva;
    Kui ma ärkvel olen ikka Sinuga. “-Valikud Psalm 139

  7. Deborah

    Dear, Sweet L,

    I am praying for you and your baby! I am blessed to know over a hundred people who have either been adopted or who have adopted…and they are wonderful, essential parts of my life. I don’t know the specific plans that God has for your life and your baby’s life, but I know His plan includes LIFE, true, abundant LIFE and I am praying that you and your baby will know this both now and in the days to come.

    I love you and continue in prayer for you…
    ~Deborah <3

  8. Mandy A.

    “For we KNOW that ALL THINGS work together for GOOD to them that LOVE the Lord and are CALLED according to HIS purpose.” – Romans 8:28
    This baby’s life is in Jesus’s hands, and I KNOW that HE WILL work this together for GOOD! I am claiming that!

    L- I completely understand the pressure you feel. I have toddler twins, and they are a WONDERFUL handful! 🙂 Babies are a HUGE responsibility, and the thought is so very scary (it took me three months to adjust to the idea of twins, and I was 31 years old!).
    With that said, PLEASE know that there are so many families in this world who struggle to have children and would LOVE to adopt your little one. I am praying for your decision, but more importantly, I’m praying for YOU! Obviously you care about this little one, and you want to do what is best for them. Satan just has a way of skewing what “right” is sometimes. Praying for clarity in your decision.
    Also, please know that God has placed these amazing people in your path for a reason. While I do not personally know them, it sounds like they are VERY supportive of you, and want to help however they can.
    I am excited to see how God moves in your life. I will pray fervently for you as your decision date arrives.
    Please know you are more than welcome to email me too if you would like to talk (mandyaltum@gmail.com). If I can be of any help…please don’t hesitate!

    To Marla & your friends –
    THANK YOU! Thank you for showing God’s LOVE while doing His will. You will be rewarded and blessed! 🙂

  9. Amy

    I am praying for this woman and her baby. My parents didn’t know that I was going to be born with a disability. And when I was born, was really the first time they knew that I had a disability. The doctors asked why my mom chose to go thru with the pregnancy, and my parents both said that they would definitely have gone thru with it, even had they known about my disability.

    Adoption is such a great option. I have chills reading this. I pray that God will give you peace, L, as you go forward. God must have some huge plans for this little baby. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord. “Plans to give you a hope and a future, and not to harm you.” Praying as you make this huge decision.

  10. Tina

    Praying for L. I myself was adopted when I was an infant. And I also placed a baby for adoption when I was in High School. I know the emotions she is going through. Prayers, prayers and more prayers for this young woman and her struggles. Hugs!!!

  11. Addie

    Praying for this girl and her baby – wow, its amazing to see God intervene in such a spectacular way. God must have amazing plans for her and her baby. And yes, adoption is wonderful – as adoptive parents, we are so thankful to our son’s birth parents for choosing life for him! Its such a gift.

  12. Anonymous

    Jesus, I pray that you will intervene in this woman’s life. Open her eyes to Truth. Put your loving arms around her. Hold her tight as she makes a big decision and prepares, either way, for a big change in her life. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of this girl’s story. Please give comfort to the Sara as well, as this must be so difficult for her right now. We love you and thank you for answering prayers.

  13. anonymous

    To L.–We have an unplanned pregnancy in our family right now too. God is using this precious baby girl to draw us all closer to Him as we wait to meet her. We will meet her in about seven weeks and I am getting so excited! When I first found out that my teenage daughter was pregnant, I was so disappointed at the limitations that would now be on her life. But gradually God has reminded me that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) I’m watching my daughter grow up before my very eyes and make unselfish choices for the sake of her baby girl. None of this–my daughter’s unplanned pregnancy, or yours–has caught God by surprise. He knew they would happen and He knows the plans He has for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) I prayed for you and your little one today.

  14. Diana

    Praying that she finds the courage to continue the pregnancy and feels the love of Christ and that she is not in this alone and that that child is a blessing!

  15. Jeanine

    To L: I don’t know you, but I know that God knew you before you were born, and He also knows the little one who He is carefully knitting together in your womb even now! He has a great plan for you both, and He loves you both so much. I hope you will choose to give your baby life, because I believe that he or she will be a blessing to many people! Please know that I am praying for you.

  16. Ruth

    I am praying as well. As a word of encouragement for the young lady: it has got to be scary & confusing to find yourself pregnant unexpectedly. We love and are praying for you & we know & believe God has special plans not just for you, but for this baby as well. There are plenty of people willing to adopt & you will be so glad if you choose life for your little one! Wish I could be there to hug you in person. Jesus loves you so much!

  17. Sharon

    Praying and have asked others to join in. In tears thinking about L and what a huge decision she has to make. I know several people that have adopted children because they could not have them themselves. The birthmom’s selflessness has been such a blessing to those families. If L sees this, I have a friend who was in the Peace Corps in Estonia, he said to tell her, “Tere” which means “Hello.”

  18. Elizabeth

    I’ve been following you on facebook today, and I just keep imagining the beautiful story God is weaving in the life of this mother and her unborn baby. I pray so much that the baby gets to experience life here on earth!

  19. Janelle

    Just a note of encouragement to leave for this girl. I am a child that was conceived unexpectedly. In fact, my birth mom went to the dr. thinking she had appendicitus only to find out she was in labor! I was born 2 months early weighing 3 1/2 lbs. My birth parents decided to give me up for adoption and I am eternally grateful for their selfless decision! I have never felt abandoned or unloved. The mother that adopted me wanted children so badly after trying to conceive for years. If only this girl realizes that adoption is such a great option. It is such a blessing to those thousads of couples that can’t have children and desperately want them! Praying!!!

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